I don't know how I will receive my maintenance?
Hello, I turned 18 last month. I'm reposting this question because the answers were a bit confusing.
I also passed my Abitur last week, but I'm registered as a student until July 1st. That same day, the deadline for enrolling in my desired program in the same city begins.
But here's the following problem: My parents have been avoiding me/arguing with me since December, which is why I locked myself in my room until May and was only there to sleep (avoiding food/getting it myself). I was also able to spend some time at my boyfriend's house. I tried to start discussions about how we could resolve the argument or at least start, and about how I would get maintenance for my studies, since it was planned that I would live with my boyfriend (even before the arguments), but this was never adhered to or refused without explanation. I also found out shortly before my 18th birthday that they were refusing to extend my child benefit, or to transfer it to me, so that at least I could extend it for my studies.
Out of anger (her replies and comments went to my head, which I regret in retrospect), I spent the next two days throwing all my furniture from my room into the hallway, as well as all my clothes, because apparently I had no claim to anything. I kept everything I had paid through my job, but I was also told I had no claim to the things and that nothing belonged to me.
They took my keys and valuable collectibles I'd collected over the years. Then they called the police. My mother started telling them she was "scared" of me, and my father said he didn't want to see me because he had to go to work the next day.
Well, the police weren't happy and said I must have a reason for it, and they also said it was their personal matter. I simply walked out after the visit (it was midnight) because I felt very unwelcome. I tried for months to reconcile, and they wanted me gone, so I've been back with my boyfriend ever since.
Now I don't know if my parents owe me child support, since they're ignoring me, just like my boyfriend's parents. They're fed up with it anymore, which I completely understand. I'm trying to bridge the time with a part-time job and consider what I can/should do. The law says I don't have to live with my parents for room and board if there's a deep-seated rift. I had my bruises documented, and I was also put in a children's home at 13. But I don't know if that will help. Can someone please help? I don't know what to do.
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Summary of my other answer:
Go to the youth office next week! There you should help you check the maintenance claim against your parents.
With admission study: BAföG submit application, as priority..
Thanks again!! Can’t put into words how much it helps me, I’ve been writing about it for weeks and have found only fractions of your information to date 🙂
The problem is the disintegration and of course you need money to live.
If you currently have more than 1030 Euro net with your part-time job, you can save the request for information for the transition period until your studies.
And for the BAföG request, you should also set them a deadline. As soon as you submit your application! Form 3 to the parents. It is best to send the form and documents directly to the Office.
For the first time, congratulations that under such circumstances you have managed your Abi.
If you don’t know where you actually get help, call the phone care. You need a stay first…
In any case, your parents have no right to take away your property. You can show them for theft.
And they are obliged to pay you a first degree if they are financially able to do so. Otherwise, you are entitled to BaFög. Maybe you’ll find a lawyer who will help you in Armenrecht and sue them to the family court.