Ich habe Angst das mein Freund seine Liebe des Lebens aufgegeben hat?

Hallo, ich und mein Freund sind jetzt seit eineinhalb Monaten zusammen. Davor hatte er eine siebenmonatige Beziehung. Wenn ich alte Fotos von dieser Zeit sehe, wirkt er irgendwie glücklicher als mit mir. Sie hat ihm Briefe geschrieben. Er sagt zwar, wenn ich ihm ein Gedicht schreibe, dass er solche Worte nie gehört hat, aber innerlich weiß ich, dass das eine Lüge ist. Vor ca. zwei Tagen habe ich mit seiner Ex telefoniert, und es kam mir so vor, als würde sie noch an ihm hängen, als hätten sie so eine kleine Schnur, die sie zusammenhält. Er hat zwar keinen Kontakt mehr zu ihr und sagt mir jeden Tag, dass er mich liebt, aber ich weiß nicht, ob er schon ganz über sie hinweg ist. Ich weiß nicht, ob es mein Borderline ist. Deswegen hat jemand eine Erklärung oder Tipps?

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nochnefrage
1 month ago

Hi.

Also related to older questions from you. Maybe you build a “help system” next to psychotherapy? I put it in quotation marks because system is so extremely organized. I don’t mean that.

Just look where you get professional undercuts.

I’ll copy my list of points of contact here. www. Krisennchat.de for example, could be helpful, and the bke-jugendberatung.de also.

Contacts for assistance throughout the German-speaking region.

www. Krisennchat.de 24 hours via WhatsApp and SMS. Formed psychologists for all under 24, accessible from many states.

In general, you can ask for help from the trust teacher and the school social worker!

Addresses for Switzerland and Austria, also internationally.

For Germany

Switzerland

Austria

  • Rat on wire: 147. Free advice and help for children and young people, anonymously, around the clock and Austria (tel., online, chat) https://www.telefonseelsorge.at/

International

https://www.childhelplineinternational.org/child-helplines/child-helpline-network/

https://www.childhelplineinternational.org/116111/

General information

  • In case of acute violence, call the police! If this is not possible, have blue spots, swellings, injuries documented by a doctor or in the hospital, which archive this, even if you make a complaint later, the evidence is. If you’re in school, talk to the trust teacher, you’ll probably get school-free for the hospital visit if you don’t have a chance to go to the clinic!
  • Outside the opening hours of the Youth Office you can visit the children’s and youth emergency service, even on weekends! Before, call there and discuss everything. However, you have to go there alone, they won’t pick you up when it escalates at home, the police will drive you!
  • You can also use the children’s protection collar https://www.dksb.de/de/artikel/detail/start-point-fuer-eltern-kinder-und-jugendliche-in-conflict-und-crisis situations/ ) call or write, anonymously, which will also help! Applies to children, young people and parents.
  • In violence (including JEDE’s form of blows, thrusts, kneifs!), chaotic and toxic family conditions, you can call the youth office or write it by email, also anonymously. It is possible to find out what they offer, for example cared groups, family therapy. It’s good to have support in contact with the Youth Office by people who know each other. For example, from the children’s protection association or the trust teacher.
  • There are local crisis services that are on the Internet, so you can call. Partly also write.
  • Local Caritas offers ongoing discussions. Possibly also email consulting, sometimes request. Find on the Internet. Here there are fixed contact persons, permanently.

Contact unsettled offers

  • By chat or e-mail, you can arrange appointments for the chat for example. Youth Notmail also offers
  • At night or in general, if you’re alone in the room.
  • If the parents are working, go shopping or go for a walk.
  • If you take a walk, for example in the park or just on the street.
Mekpomm
1 month ago

It is his decision to be with you now. Let the past rest, that is not good – not you, not him, and not your relationship!

Mekpomm
1 month ago
Reply to  aajili

I’m very sorry that you’re suffering from it and don’t get it out of your head, but that’s your problem and you/you should work on it. Can also be on your Borderline fault, so I don’t know! All right.

lynnmary1987
1 month ago

He’s NOW with you

And yes, your self-doubts certainly have to do with your mental disorder rather than with your relationship.