I'm still single, what should I do?

Hi,

I have the following problem. I'm in my late twenties, approaching 30. I've never had a girlfriend in my life, and unfortunately, I've never had sex either.

One of the reasons is that I was exposed to a lot of trauma as a child. Once because of my father's alcoholism and hardcore bullying at school, especially by girls.

I've been in therapy for a long time. It was successful.

Still, I can't find a girlfriend because, unfortunately, I'm still overweight and feel very ugly. I've already lost over 50 kg, but my excess weight still shows.

It frustrates me greatly and makes me very uncomfortable that I still haven't had a single relationship with any woman.

How will I ever find a woman? Because to achieve my dream of becoming slim, I still have to lose enough weight.

Just to clarify one thing. I'm losing weight for myself. I want to live a healthier life, have more freedom as a slim person, and I want to wear really stylish clothes.

Either way, I'd like to start a family. And the whole women's issue is really frustrating me. What should I do?