ByYakuzi
Ich habe nur eine Hand voll Freunde und sehe diese alle paar Monate mal. Kann einfach keinen an mich ranlassen.
Anfangs beim kennenlernen bin ich sehr charmant, aber wenn es länger geht, so mache ich zu, stoße die Leute von mir und werde zum A Loch. Ebenso kann ich mich keinen Autoritäten beugen bzw. kann es nur Zähneknirschend. Hirarichien erkenne ich nicht an.
Was soll ich tun ?
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Hi Leute, ich wollte heute was fragen. Mir geht es schon seit längerem sehr schlecht, und ich hab auch privat einige Probleme. Ich würde gerne in Therapie gehen, aber ich will nicht meinen Eltern erklären warum. Ich möchte es meinem Therapeuten erklären, deshalb will ich in Therapie. Habt ihr vielleicht eine Idee wie ich es…
I’m not a psychologist, but that sounds to me for fear of attachment, you’re afraid to tie you with people if you notice it’s going to be more serious or narrower. Think back to your childhood, whether something like that happened to parents or something.
I recommend you to go for therapy, but don’t have to be you can also try to work on yourself with certain strategies on the internet.
“Denk back to your childhood, whether something like that happened to parents or something.”
I always had to afford in childhood and was considered to be the “bred child”. Likewise, my father was not emotionally accessible and my mother was unstable. Then I was always the adult person, the conciliator.
I wouldn’t say you were an A hole. You just don’t like authorities, which is understandable. If you don’t have the need to see your friends more often, that’s okay. You don’t owe anyone anything and you can do what you want.
Sounds like a harder case, you better let professionals go. Ever tried psychotherapy? And even if, unfortunately, you have to find the right psychologist. But I don’t think you’re going to be able to help with such simple answers as you give them here. This will require longer, more complex work. And you need professional help.
A little humble. And be grateful for what gives you life. For example: friends and acquaintances.
Are you afraid of bonds?
Yes
Why?
Thank you
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Generally, the books of Stefanie Stahl mega are good. She also has some videos on the topic of binding fear. If you like, you can look at them. It’s very good for you to find out about yourself. Such bond fears can be much connected to their own childhood. For example, if one could not build a secure bond to his own parents and they are doubtlessly the ancestral trust. Therefore, it is not surprising if one cannot build a reliable bond to “foreign”. You can’t underestimate the power of subconsciousness. You build false beliefs unconsciously over the years and then you think it was. Besides “I can’t rely on anyone” or the need for closeness and connectedness can also quickly become “enjoy me, but don’t touch me”.
Whatever!
here is the book which I can recommend to you on the topic: https://www.thalia.de/shop/home/artikeldaten/A1057184426
and also correct GUT: https://www.thalia.de/shop/home/artikeldaten/A1036033852
yes, clear 👍🏻
Do you like reading books? Would like to recommend something to the topic.
“Do you feel the desire for love and closeness, but are you afraid of a relationship of this kind or do you care if that would not happen?”
sometimes the idea of binding and a common future make me ready. By the way, it was the reason for my ending in my old one.
If you notice that it will be more serious. ”
Yeah, right. I’ll get back and get colder, very provocative.
Oh, yeah, I feel familiar. Emotional safety as a child is very important. Do you feel the desire for love and closeness, but are you afraid of a relationship of this kind or do you care if that wasn’t happening? Because as you describe it, it reads that you’re moving back when you realize it’s getting more serious.
It’s just mute. It’s my family. Had a harder childhood and always had to be the fighter, the adult of my parents. My mother was very unstable, my father Emotional was not present.