I usually get €100 from my uncle for Christmas. This year, he only gave me €50, arguing that I'm not currently in college, and he wanted to give me less because he didn't want to encourage my complacency. Do you think that's justified? And what should I do?
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Tja. Und wenn er dir nichts geschenkt hätte, wäre es auch noch so gewesen.
Jeder darf doch selbst entscheiden, wieviel er verschenken will.
natürlich, dass es jedem selbst überlassen. Ich fand nur nicht miteinander vermischen.
Das ist seine Entscheidung.
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also findest du gut, dass eine mit dem anderen zu vermischen😂 du bist genauso ahnungslos, wie er
I think he shouldn't give you any more presents if you're behaving so ungratefully…strictly speaking, it's not his duty to give you anything. Be glad you at least got 50!
I can understand your uncle's intentions. You should think about that, too.
But apart from that, how do you even come to the conclusion that you have a “right” to a gift?
A gift is a voluntary thing and you should be grateful – even if he has "only" given you his attention, his trust or his love.
Wishing you all the best!
Niemand muss sich rechtfertigen, wenn er dir etwas, deiner Meinung nach nicht angemessenes Schenkt. Er muss dir überhaupt nichts schenken und vorallem muss er sich dafür nicht rechtfertigen. 50€ sind als Weihnachtsgeschenk schon sehr viel. Und dann noch die Dreistigkeit zu besitzen, noch mehr zu fordern, ist einfach nur peinlich. Deine Eltern schämen sich bestimmt in Grund und Boden für dein unglaubliches und respektloses Verhalten. Sei froh, dass du überhaupt was bekommst und lern erstmal Geschenke wert zu schätzen.
Oh, I know it completely differently. My grandma was a complete hoot there too. I was Protestant to begin with. When I left the church I was at a loss for words. But people started talking to me again eventually. Then I joined the Jehovah's Witnesses. Christmas was pretty bland there. It didn't matter. I was past the age of Christmas presents anyway. My grandma was afraid that people would point fingers at our family because I joined the Witnesses. When my grandma then found out who all in town was a Witness, the tables turned. Respected businessmen and civil servants and even teachers were among them. That changed her point. When I left the Witnesses after five years, she felt she had to let me down at Christmas. She generously and patronizingly handed out the envelopes and said I wouldn't get one because I didn't believe in God and therefore didn't need one. I then took the wind out of her sails and said that it was perfectly fine, I hadn't come for the money but to see the family that you don't usually get to see. That was much better than a few bucks in an envelope. Then my grandma and my aunts' feelings escalated; they were embarrassed and an argument ensued. I just sat there, drank my coffee and enjoyed the show. The following year I didn't go, which wasn't right either. She held it against me again. I then just said that I didn't want to cause another argument and would rather have a quiet and contemplative Christmas. After that she stopped speaking to me and died the following May.
The first Christmas when things escalated like that, it really hit me. I just don't let it show. That's what people like that want. They only feel comfortable and justified when the other person is put down.
What I'm trying to say is… even if it hurt you, you should never get involved in these games. Yes, it hurts, but never let her see it, because otherwise you'll be completely out of the story. Even though it hurt me back then, I also ruined my grandma's day with my statement. She was someone who always had to win, and she didn't that day.
Your uncle thinks it's justified. He decides what to give you.
What should you do? Be grateful that he gave you 50 euros. And thank him accordingly.
I think that's justified.
If I were your uncle, I would give you a few job offers to apply for 😂
Finde ich gut so. Außerdem mag ich nicht, wie Leute so gierig nach Geld und Geschenken sind.. aber okay
Has nothing to do with greed I just think one is Christmas and the other has nothing to do with it
Doch, hat es. Geld ist nicht das wichtigste, über 50€ kann man sich trotzdem freuen, auch wenn man früher mehr bekam
Außerdem ist seine Entscheidung, ganz egal ob die Ausbildung damit zusammenhängt oder nicht
Sei froh, dass Du überhaupt was bekommen hast. Die Begründung des Onkels finde ich gut.
Was Du machen sollst? Dankbar sein für €50 und eine Ausbildung machen.