How do I move out without spending a lot of money?

Question

I've been wanting to move out of my home for many years because I no longer want to live with my parents/family. I don't have a good relationship with them; I'm constantly the problem for everything that happens; I get belittled, put down, etc. We also constantly argue about money. I recently turned 18 and have a €520 job alongside school, but I earned half that much. I don't have much left at the end of the month. Since I still have a year of school left, I can't start an apprenticeship or earn money in any other way. My parents don't earn much, and we receive a lot of support from the state. I want to achieve everything without parental support.

Here's my question: Are there any ways I can move out without having enough financial means? Are there any offices or grants I can apply to, for example, to move into a shared apartment or somewhere else? I also wanted to ask if I can earn more than €520 a month, or is that not allowed as a student? PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE THAT DOESN'T DEPEND ON PARENTAL REQUIREMENTS.

Thank you very much

marinax1997 · Answer

There are school dormitories, but you're already 18.

Owning your own apartment requires a lot of money – usually a deposit and monthly additional costs in addition to the rent.

You could look into BAföG, inquire at your city's youth and family center, or find a weekend job?

What class are you in? What's your situation?

wiesel · Answer

First and foremost, you should probably talk to the youth welfare office. They can also recommend residential groups.

For example, there is student BAFöG and housing benefit.

But it will still be really close.

For example, if you do another €520 job, your total earnings may not exceed €520.

Another source of income would be selling used underwear, socks, and shoes. I'm often laughed at for this, but there's a market for that too, and you can serve it. Still better than prostitution, in my opinion.

tand0r · Answer

You would have to convince the job center that living with your parents is unreasonable for you.

But that is very difficult.

You could get advice from the youth welfare office about what options are available. If you can convince them that you can no longer live with your parents, you have a good chance of convincing the job center as well.

But what you describe sounds more like a typical generational conflict, which isn't enough to convince the youth welfare office.

kessie1 · Answer

Are there any ways I can move out without having enough financial resources?

Unfortunately, a clear no.

You will not receive BAföG for students as long as the general education school is within reach of your parents' home.

You will only receive reimbursement from the job center if you can prove that living with your parents is unreasonable. This would involve psychological and physical violence.

You should use the money from your part-time job to save up for your own apartment. A shared room or a small apartment isn't enough. Often, you'll also need to pay a deposit, furnishings, things like vacuum cleaners, irons, ironing boards, kitchenware, etc. In addition, you'll need to pay for necessary insurance such as liability and household contents insurance, as well as additional costs like electricity and heating, cell phone plans, public transport, etc.

You may be too old for a place in a residential group unless the youth welfare office was already involved long before and considered the domestic conditions to be unbearable for you.

Basically, many young people want to move out of their homes. But they have to be able to afford it!

So you'll have to wait until you start a reasonably well-paid apprenticeship. With your own registered address, you can then apply for a diversion of child benefit, or your parents can forward it to you.

Or you start studying and then apply for BAföG.