How do I get over the fact that even my own mother hates me?
Hello, my dears,
The older I get, the more I realize how broken my relationship with my mother seems to be. I only know my mother as a very impulsive person who has freaked out over the smallest thing since I was a little child. On the one hand, she can be such a warm-hearted person who supports me, but on the other, she seems like a completely different person. I remember so many situations that were too much for me. Her reaction when she found out I was gay (that's completely disgusting for a woman), her reaction when I was sexually harassed by her partner as a child (I should really be feeling bad, after all, my partner is interested in younger men…), she blocks me as soon as I behave inappropriately (often for months), and at the same time, she has the best relationship with my brother. I don't want any of that anymore. At the same time, though, when we get along, she can be very sensitive and like a friend.
I'm sorry but I just wanted to get this off my chest.
Thanks
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It's probably not hate. It may be that it is self-centric.
It often happens that you don't understand your mother. Mothers can be very selfish, children can be very selfish, there are many broken families. The good thing about life is that you can choose friends and lovers.
Hello, Bambi378.
Can a mother even hate?
It's unimaginable for me.
Many of your mothers are unsatisfied and unbalanced, hence their outbreaks.
What I have to do is that she's been blasphemed when you were sexually abused. She should have separated herself from the partner right away, and immediately ad would have been your mother's duty. This incident took your youth…
Besides, they must accept your homosexuality, because you are their child…
I can only advise you, go your way, and make it better…
Don't forget that she's your mother.
Greetings, Renate.
Accept it as it is. You can't change anyone, you can only change yourself.