How can one endure all this?
We are currently undergoing diagnostic testing with our son in the child and adolescent psychiatry outpatient clinic.
The psychologist already said it.
Our son most likely has ADHD along with an anxiety disorder.
He really freaks out all the time.
Hits, kicks, breaks things, attacks our animals.
My husband always completely freaks out. He takes everything away from him and issues prohibitions.
I'm also at my wit's end.
I don't know what is right and what is wrong either.
I've tried a few things. It only works to a limited extent with my husband. It depends on his mood.
No matter how you do it, he always gets completely into it.
I hope things get better soon. This is unbearable for everyone involved.
Of course, the siblings also suffer from this.
The mood is permanently bad.
Now I hardly dare to leave the house without feeling like things are escalating when I'm not there.
I am also chronically ill and have a lot of responsibility at work.
I feel like I can't handle it all anymore.
This is all too much for me.
I don't know what I'm hoping to achieve here, but it had to come out. 😢
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In Ambulance can you also ask how you Parents can handle it! You can also be advised how you can best deal with your son.
The next thing would be that you as parents need support. Your husband, who can’t handle it very well. Here would be Educational counselling for you as parents certainly advisable.
Of course, your son could also be there. Find help.
Yeah, that might be a good idea. I hope he accepts it, too.
At the moment it is really very difficult.
Everything is only seen as a criticism. It’s not until yesterday. Until we get the date there or even one, it just took almost 2 years.
But I’ll go and talk to people.
Thanks for the tip
So you shouldn’t have to wait for an appointment for more than 4 weeks at the educational advisory office. It would be completely new to me that the waiting times are longer there. They can at least help and support you as parents. What your son needs is something else. Maybe a stationary therapy or a residential group? Maybe drugs too? You will certainly be able to say something in the ambulance.
Thanks for this very constructive answer!
That’s what I understood. Therefore, I also recommend the consultancy office so that you don’t have to find help for a long time.
No, I meant in the ambulance we waited so long.
Hi. That sounds like a challenge.
Linuel already calls good solutions!
I’ll write it up, add my answer to what I’m still thinking. also summarize what is already said here:
Set priorities? Maybe going to part-time, at least passing over? Your child is important, it can’t do anything. And if I consider what you’re describing, it can also be that the father who often freaks out makes the child extra pressure, which may also cause the behavior of the child to become more difficult for expendant?
There is no therapy yet, because as far as psychiatry is concerned, everything is at the beginning. Maybe good drugs help to calm down, learn impulses to control.
Look for a maternity cure with specializations, think the soillte by case being possible.
Good idea!
Thanks for the tip
Sounds hard now, but who it is my child and all applicable methods do not show any effect, I would probably try to get rid of it. Somewhere in a home for hard-drawn or something.
Who wants someone at home like that. So I don’t – and apparently you don’t. It burdens you, overloads you, your husband anyway, and it burdens the other (normal) children. Everyone, the whole family, suffers from it.
Nene du, get away with it, somewhere where professionals can get more. Or just give it to a nursing family, whatever. Wouldn’t accept that a completely crazy child would have my whole life incl. Family and life of other children destroyed.
Everyone has its limits. When the whole family breaks and All Children suffer only because a child turns completely round is in the end no one helped. Sometimes it is better to pull the emergency brake in time and choose the smaller evil.
Hi.
The formulation “way with it” is like an unloved piece of furniture. It’s really bad how you talk about a kid here, really bad.
Linuel’s answer provides solutions, you just want it, everything that is disturbed is disposed of. Children are people who need care. And you have to look for more time to find solutions. Who loves looking. Who can’t, “get it.”
Apparently, it’s also a bad, really bad child.
That’s not an option. I love my child. Even though it is currently very exhausting.
We’re only in diagnostics. I hope it gets better with diagnosis and then therapy.
What notices: Finding solutions does not seem to happen to you. The psychiatry has not yet been able to work properly with the child. Trying drugs!
Family help you call self-help groups. Consultation bodies, stakeholders’ associations. Everything seems to have not been used yet!
Problems? The child should be disposed of like garbage, according to your choice of words: Get away with it. Remember the language of dark times in history!
Not a bit of care, respect, love sounds in your language.
I’m sure it’s difficult for the parents. “Go with it” is hate language, completely inappropriate in the subject.
That’s bad, disgusting in the language!
That’s different. And many I know who work with children also xD
No, a child is never bad. Never! It has a special feature, a disorder. You spread hatred against children with special features, disorders. That’s bad, disgusting in the language!