How can I free myself from my guilty conscience? Suicide?
Hello,
Yesterday, there was a person here who was determined to change his life. At 2:00 a.m., he wanted to make the final decision: whether to kill himself or call the police and have himself committed.
I was very worried yesterday and tried to talk to him for a long time. But he was convinced that only he could make the decision.
He then went to bed at around 11 p.m. and wanted to get up around 2 a.m. and go for a walk in the woods and then make the decision.
I didn't stay awake until then, though. At 1:40 a.m., he texted me to see if I was still there. (I didn't see it until the next morning.)
I haven't heard from him since. I'm really worried he did it. I couldn't stop him, and now I blame myself. I'll never be able to forgive myself.
And since I have suicidal thoughts myself, I actually just want to do it even more.
Does anyone have any ideas or encouragement on how I can deal with this better?
Thank you
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I am TA coach and coach in the staffing of medium-sized companies and was with a pharmaceutical trader until the early retirement.
TA Eric Berne American psychiatrist and founder of transaction analysis.
Within this training, the TN has learned to deal with explicitly such topics.
Conclusion: Your coachie’s great, so no more child. You’ve committed yourself to him and given your best. No matter what happens or may not have happened, he has the responsibility for his life – and not you. Even if… it doesn’t change anything.
Not a little bite. The only one who finally hurts and will hurt or hurt will be you.
How one of our colleagues always says: Guilt? Always to me. Always here! Questions?
I don’t think so.
Thank you. That was very helpful
If you need support. Always happy.
I’ll tell you something because I wrote with him (you know) and that’s especially true for you. Stay away from those people who care about suicide like you. That’s not a “clique,” not a cool “gang” or whatever you say. The dumbest thing a person can do with such thoughts is to “help” another with such thoughts. To do this, it requires stable personalities, character-proof, adult people otherwise it only harms you. Do you understand?
But just to the case, you did what you could, don’t worry, and I’m almost sure he didn’t do anything. In no case would it be your “school.”
Okay, that’s good from your perspective because you were there.
And that’s true, it just made me unstable. I felt kind of responsible.
But why don’t you think he didn’t?
I wrote to you.
Ah cool thanks
Sure.
You’re not responsible for the life of any stranger.
You are solely responsible for you and only for you (later for your children if you have them). What he does or leaves, you probably wouldn’t have been able to influence him.
Okay, hmm. Thank you
You don’t know what he did. And if everything was really serious.
And since you couldn’t go to him, you couldn’t have done anything.
You don’t need to worry about things you can’t change or prevent.
Thank you.
I hope he didn’t do anything
No matter what he decided to do.
It was his decision, as he mentioned.
Even if you were awake, you can’t know if you could have influenced him.
A bad conscience doesn’t help any of you and you just pull it down.
Thank you
I advise you to be held up by such people… they are pure egoistic and are not interested in you.
Call the police, otherwise it is omitted assistance and dan brich the contact.
I’ve done everything. Good question.
But cancel contact. You don’t even know if he’s still here
Then the contact break is easy…
I don’t want