Help, do I have an autistic child?

Did you specifically ask for neurological development disorders/preventions, or just genetic diseases?

If you were asking for genetic diseases, I wouldn’t have told you anything about my autism. For autism is not even a disease in the most remote.

It is important to know that there are great differences between disabilities and diseases.

In addition, I am afraid that you would have decided against this donor if you had known that he is an autist, because you would be too afraid that your child could also get it. I find that very sad, because you would either want every child or not at all. Children’s wars are not a wish concert. And autism is nothing bad.

Your daughter is still very young. Mostly, the first signs of autism are shown only from about the 3rd year of life. I’d say you don’t worry first and look that if you’re about 3-5, you’re looking for a children’s eurologist or, alternatively, children’s psychiatrist with autism (very important!).

Possible signs can be:

• Does not respond to your own name, looks like “traveled”
• Has motor problems (e.g. running, straight seats etc.)
• Applies significantly later or significantly earlier than other babies/children to speak
• If it is possible to be pine (hypersensible) with regard to food, and/or eat food only in a certain order and/or only if it has been prepared in an appropriate manner and/or does not eat some food due to the color
• Hyper- or hyposensitivity to external stimuli. So something like: food, diapers change, reacts very sensitively to shower gel/shampoo o.A., noise (possibly it is very loud, but keeps the ears shut and tries to escape/wines/o.A. if someone else is loud), heat, cold, hunger, thirst, harndrang, smells, touches …
• Acts vocal. For example: Turning, rams, sums, words repeatedly repeat (Echolalie), with the hands flatter, run around, go up and down, swing, etc.
• Can not be properly realized if it has to be on the toilet when it is hungry or thirst etc. So she may not notice the signals of the body
• Is very concerned that everything goes according to their plan, does not like sudden deviations, controls perhaps like, needs routine to work etc.
• In kindergarten it can be that she has problems playing with other children. This can have various reasons. For example, because it’s too loud and because it’s afraid of the many, killing children (was so with me then)
• It may be that they meltdowns ( https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour/meltdowns/all-audiences ) and/or shutdowns ( https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/manage-autism-shutdown/ ) has. These can have various causes. They usually happen due to stimulus flooding or because something unplanned happens. For example, it can be that it gets tired quickly when you go shopping with it, as shopping shops are quasi Sensory Hell for many of us autists. Maybe she starts to milk quickly, or she cries quickly, or her tuning becomes much stronger. So there are definitely signs. The most sensible thing would be to find out where their sensory boundaries lie and accept them and shouldn’t be possible, then find out how you can best help to survive this. Meltdowns/shutdowns are actually very power-consuming for us.

But I’d wait and drink tea as you say.

And if she really should be an autist, that’s the way. You can learn a lot from her. Look at it as an enrichment, because autism means not only the things I have listed above. It’s another brain, so to speak. (Wortword.) Another neurology. That means that we perceive the world differently etc. pp. and several perspectives on the world are always important. It would be very boring if there were only neurotypical people.