Help?
My parents argue often, very often, and my father. I love him more than anything and my mother and my father too, but only when he hasn't had any beer. It's like 1, 2 beers are normal, 3, 4 beers are his rhythm, 5, 6 he makes trouble, 7, 8 he lets out his anger on everyone, causes unnecessary stress, 9, 10 he pisses off. The sad thing is, my parents love each other so much, but it's the beer. I'm relatively young, very young, although I'd like to keep my age to myself and I can't. I break down every hour, every day, every night, like now as I write this, and with the two of them it's like a fight. I don't know how to tell other people because otherwise I'll get shouted at and have to sleep in front of the front door. My mother goes for a walk every day for 2 hours because she can't calm down like that. The wedding ring is often thrown away, put on, back and forth, I can't handle it. Maybe it sounds harmless because you've been through worse, but at my age I can't cope with all of this. I pray for my parents so often, but Nothing has changed and far too much bad has happened that I want to cry blood. I also have to get to the point because I wanted to ask how do I get my father out of his alcohol addiction? We get on well. He hasn't had a drink for a month because of me, but it starts again and again and I find that embarrassing of him because we love each other so much, but barely an hour later the beer is back and it hurts so much to see that other children can hang out with their father normally. I'm happy for them, but it makes me sad, so please, really please, I'm looking for help. Can someone please tell me how I can help him out of this and how I can help my mum, dad and sisters live a normal, nice life. Please spread the word as far as possible so that lots of people see it, if anyone sees it at all, and I can get as much advice as possible. Please hurry before it's too late.
Greetings, Kian✝️
Hello, Kian!
Nacoa offers a free anonymous chat every Tuesday at 6:00 for young people who have problems with the consequences of drinking alcohol from a parent. Come on. https://nacoa.de/projects/consultation offers-round-the-thema-kinder-aus-suchtfamilie
Give your mother the link http://www.Al-Anon.de
In history, my heart bleeds… You’re definitely more adult than your parents. There are addictive clinics for alcoholics. Your father, however, would have to declare himself ready to go there. No one can force him.
After some research I also found out that there is something called the “Children’s and Adult Protection Authority”. Just try to get in touch with one of the contacts. You’re a minor, but I can’t imagine you’re gonna listen. I’ve put the link to you:
https://www.savethechildren.de/inform/ueber-uns/protection of children and adults/protection of children/
For example, they offer addiction advice for alcoholics. You will certainly be helpful, because I notice you need help on an emotional level.
Don’t give up!
Thank you
such an ass! has a great family and ruins everything with his baptism…
turn to an adult trustee (relative, trust teacher, youth office…)
and make clear to your father that he must choose between you and the baptism.
Your father is alcoholic and he can only help himself. Your mother should throw him out and separate. No one has to live with this or something.
If you don’t stop it, turn to the jugendamt and get help. you have to get out if your mother isn’t in the position to change the circumstances.