Hätte ich schweigen sollen?
Ich habe meiner Mutter erzählt, dass mich mein Stiefvater vor 10 Jahren zwei Jahre lang missbrauchte. Ich habe so lange geschwiegen, weil ich Angst hatte, sie mir vor 10 Jahren nicht glaube als ich es ihr erzählte und ich die Familie nicht zerstören wollte.
Nun habe ich es aber. Ich fühle mich einerseits erleichtert weil eine jahrelang Last plötzlich weg ist. Andererseits tut es weh meine Mutter so zu sehen und dass sie nun alles verliert. Sie möchte sie von ihm trennen und muss sich allein eine neue Wohnung suchen und nochmal von vorne anfangen. Ich dagegen lebe unabhängig und fühle mich schlecht dass wegen mir das durchmachen muss.
Auch habe ich Angst wie mein Stiefvater reagiert wenn sie von ihrem Wissen erzählt. Es wird alles nie mehr so sein wie früher.
Hätte ich im Nachhinein zu ihrem Wohl schweigen sollen oder musste es so kommen?
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What you had to go through is horrific, not to mention the late episodes, of the psychological burdens. You have to make yourself aware.
This man belongs to the craftsman laid, so it is right that you have now revealed this and no longer remained silent. I’d tell him a punishment is the least he deserved.
It is essential that your mother separates from him, that you can’t live with such a man, but that’s not your fault.
Don’t blame yourself, you’re the victim, you’re too good if you’re making a bad conscience.
Your mother must start a new life, but she’ll make it. Many women have to start a new life when they separate. Sometimes it’s different than expected.
You can’t blame yourself!
Thank you for your words
It’s really what you did. You’re strong. Stay strong.
No, she doesn’t have to go through this because she’s with an A….hole and didn’t want to see it or could. And asking your stepfather to pick up is so incapable. I’m unconstitutional.
you should see him. Let yourself be advised.
I guess your mother would have loved to know right away.
You used to have the protection of the family in mind, and on the other hand you became a criminal victim.
Probably it would be wise for you to work up the situation with life coach/psychologin/therapist.
Make sure your stepfather will deny anything, or push you into your shoes.
The truth was absolutely right. I’d show him to the police.
This criminal and his iniquities must not be concealed. He can do something to others, especially if nothing comes out.
No way
And a criminal complaint would be useful in this context.
You’ve only been posting questions about this topic for 2 days. How about getting you professional help instead of talking about your feelings at GoodFrage?
This must be decided by everyone after 10 years I feel unnecessary
You seriously think he didn’t abuse other children in the 10 years.
It must be displayed in any case so that other children can save this fate!
I don’t want to start a fight here
I wouldn’t
So sad this whole thing is after 10 years letting everything back in me boil it is not worth
Many affected people can only talk about the abuse experienced after decades, as 10 years are rather short.
had you read my commentary?
It is never too late to show a child molester and thus to keep other innocent children from the same fate!
If an adult notices that he is paedophile, which is not a problem, he must suppress his tendency or seek professional help!
You don’t understand or don’t want to understand, do you?
See this is your problem you generalize:c
Sexual abuse never leaves a victim behind!
The perpetrators are behind bars for a long time.
don’t you see how selfish you are?
you realize that you are still quite beginning and others just didn’t let it go
you don’t have to be jealous
I don’t want to know you!
If you had been abused by your father’s best friend for over 10 years, you would certainly not have had the need to let him get away!
When you show him, you keep innocent children’s souls from becoming victims of this man.
That counts alone!
it’s always funny people mean to know me better than I xD
you know a damp shit about me for me you’re just one of many out there
Sexual abuse leaves traces on the soul and therefore it is very important to show this son of a bitch.
If you had experienced it yourself, you would know what we’re talking about.
By the way, I needed more than 10 years for it.
He can’t get away with it.
Right… but too late
And don’t forget to show this criminal!
Too late