Is my mother right about the pill and my boyfriend?
Hey 🙂 I've had a new boyfriend for a few weeks now. When it comes to sex and contraception, he's very strict: He forces me to take the pill if I want to have sex with him. He simply doesn't want to use condoms because he thinks sex with a condom isn't sex and he wants to experience the feeling of ejaculating inside me. I got the pill prescribed before Christmas because I love him very much and of course I want to have sex with him, but I'd love to use a condom. I don't feel good about taking the pill every day and I've already noticed that the pill isn't doing me any good because I get tired quickly and my breasts have gotten bigger even though I already have a lot. My mother thinks it's impossible and thinks I should stop taking them if I don't feel comfortable with them and he has to accept that. At breakfast this morning she persuaded me that I should split up with him if he makes a fuss about coming off the pill and that I should find a new boyfriend. Do you agree and would you do the same?
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I am quite in favour of the pill and think it is a good idea for young girls in most cases.
But your friend’s behavior is not at all. The safest prevention is the double (pill plus condom), and if he doesn’t want a condom, he doesn’t get any sex.
In your place, I’d shoot the friend in the wind and still take the pill. The swollen breasts go away after a few weeks, and then you have the great advantage that your bleedings become weaker and shorter and do not hurt anymore.
You should take care of young girls. It is proven that the uterus does not grow further than without pill. There are also no studies, as studies with minors are not allowed.
Stay in your garden!
Sorry, this is nonsense. The pill contains the same hormones that the body itself would produce. And the womb is whether these hormones get into the blood from the ovary or from the gastrointestinal tract.
Let’s go
diengaertner easy – she unfortunately has zero idea and makes advertising for bad books of medical practitioners
Of course a lack. Otherwise, the control bleeding would not happen, and the stimulation would not have to start again.
No lack. A waste, but no lack
Sorry, you’re wrongly informed. Menstruation is just a sign of a lack of sex hormones, otherwise they would not. The yellow body, which has formed after the ovulation, can produce hormones for only 14 days without additional stimulation and is then underlying. Without the hormones of the yellow body (i.e. in the hormone deficiency), the uterus cannot maintain the mucous membrane and the bleeding begins. Due to the lack of hormone in the blood, the stimulation by the hypophysis then jumps again – unless one comes before with the pill.
Our body has never guaranteed a hormone deficiency if it is healthy. And menstruation is exactly the sign of health. What a fool. Depending on the pill, testosterone is suppressed. The adrenals are also affected. But are they why the cortisol level is constantly increased by the pill than normal. And too much stress has a negative effect on the thyroid gland and this will take some functions down. Also, the blosse existence of artificial estrogens can influence the thyroid functions, the whole thing becomes worse when an estrogen dominance occurs.
You can’t keep apart in our body because we’re not a machine. Everything is connected and nothing has its own circles
Unfortunately, everything is wrong. The pill blocks our own hormone balance by replacing our body’s hormones. You give the pill at a time when the body is in the absence of a hormone (because you start taking the control bleeding) and thus signal the circulating hormones from the pill of the hypophysis that stimulation of the ovaries is not necessary. Simple and brilliant.
thyroid and adrenal hormones are subject to other control circuits.
You speak weak. These are artificial hormone substitutes, not physical hormones. And a significantly higher dose. Somehow the pill must block our own hormone balance. And hormones come not only from the ovaries or from the pill. There are even more organs producing the hormones and thus being negatively influenced. thyroid and adrenal gland. But even from other tissues, hormones or are converted. Testosterone zB is produced halfway.
Hello,
to have a partner who doesn’t accept that you pay attention to contraception and force you to something….
This is not a basis for a relationship in my eyes.
If my husband had asked for that then… don’t go.
She’s absolutely right. He wants his fun and you’re supposed to suffer from it and make your legs wide… It’s a long time gone
Your friend is, sorry, an uneducated childish A*loch
Drop the pill and then say either with condom or not at all. I would even close
I’m not a pill fan and if someone else is pushed to it or forced to do so
This is a very selfish behavior of Him. Your body, your decision. I was smart at the time about the pill and I wouldn’t let my girlfriend swallow it, just so I could have “more fun.” If he does not accept this and does not value your well-being, he is not a good friend.
You didn’t seem to be smart
Your mother is definitely right. Don’t let anything force you. The pill is nothing that you should simply take in between, but takes enormously into your hormone balance. If he doesn’t want rubber, there’s no sex
Yes, she’s right. He’s supposed to use a condom. Otherwise there is no sex.
The pill offers quite advantages in contraception and even sex with condom feels different than sex without which most women will be able to confirm. Both, however, are not a reason to force someone to take, especially if it does not determine for itself that your pill does not do well.
Condoms do not have any convulsions (apart from the different sensation of sex) and if they are used correctly are similar in safety.
I can’t do that. You’re 15. And let your friend rum command you only that he has his fun. Especially since you don’t trust them as you write.
What’s going on next?
I’m your mother’s right.
looks like an unripe guy.
A woman should only take the pill if she wants and not vice versa.
Sex should be both fun.. I wouldn’t want that from my friend. We have long with rubber
He’s right that he’s on a safe prevention ( pill or IUD). It’s not possible to force you. If you don’t want a pill, there’s no sex at all. No, if anything else fits
An unding. Prevention is the responsibility of both partners. That he forces you is under all guns. It’s even more stupid.
Put the pill and the guy down.
Prevention is a matter, all parties involved. You have to find a method that suits both and is all right for both, otherwise there is no sex.
He wants you to fuck with hormones so he doesn’t have to use a bag.
You don’t want hormones and you’d be more for the bag.
He is not about you and your pleasure, but about having to take carelessly and without any responsibility, what he wants.
Relationships don’t work like that.
If you don’t agree, I don’t see any other solution.
So he’s better off?
Yes, I say.
Your mother has 100% right and before you have sex without condom, he should be tested for sexual diseases first, before that he could lick me without condom…
I don’t want to give you a direct advice, because it’s your thing whether or not you want to decide. But I’d like to give you some thought:
You are only a few weeks together, which means that you cannot yet have secured tests on sexual diseases. Without this, I would not operate unprotected traffic at your place; I hope that your health & your life should be worth it.
A partner who exerts such pressure & this exclusively due to his own preferences, regardless of you & your desires / needs & your well-being, I personally feel questionable & rather selfish.
Feeling/hearing very selfish/critical in you & try to find the way or decision that feels right for you.
Always remember: You are a valuable person & you have the right to be treated accordingly.
Your mother’s right. Why are you going to force yourself to that? That clearly shows you that you don’t care. 🤷🏼 ♀️
But you’re okay?
These types are shown where the mason left the hole. But fast…
So separate?
Isn’t the result of your survey clear enough? Yes, separate.