Did I get traumatized?
In 2019, my grandmother died and left a rental property to my mother and her two sisters. My mother and I live in one of the apartments, first with my grandmother, and since 2019 alone. This house cannot be sold for 10 years (as stated in the will), so until 2029. It is managed by one of my aunts.
Life in the house is hell on earth because the heirs are always fighting, and my aunt hates us. Besides us, there are three other tenants living here. My aunt recruited two of them to help her get us out of the house, claiming we were loud and did all sorts of things. My aunt even filed an eviction suit against us, but the court dismissed it last September. The judge found the charges against us unbelievable. Since then, it's been quiet in the house. But something has happened; I no longer feel comfortable here. This whole eviction case was really bad. I don't want to write too much and list everything, but it's pretty heavy stuff. I'm 16, by the way.
Whenever I meet these tenants, the two of them, I get anxious. The worst of them all tries to act like nothing happened after the whole thing and doesn't keep any distance from us. No one has ever apologized. It feels like a year of my life has been stolen, a year I spent worrying and fearing that we'd be kicked out of here. My mom gets a pension, we can't just move to another apartment; we have no money.
I'm not the same as I used to be; something's different. Maybe it's caused me trauma. A psychologist said I'm fine, though, and I just need time to process things. Do you have any tips for me? How can I deal with this?
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Such experiences are hard. A year under fear of suffering is bad.
I can only give you the tip to talk to people about it and make you aware that this time is finally over. This will help you process the events.
There is a difference between clinical trauma and a traumatic experience. But I don’t want to go too far from the feast. It was definitely a traumatic experience.
I wish you all the best and good improvement.
I’d let you advise me at the office and try to pay my share of the house…
Then nix out!
Unfortunately, we didn’t, we had a lawyer and still got him. The last will must be accepted. So we have to wait until 2029.
It would not mean that the renting house should be sold – only you two are moving out, then you will receive the proportional renting income…
Go to a psychiatrist and let you examine….What you write speaks very much for a mental illness (Hab himself had similar ypmtoms and thoughts, and suffer from depression and forced illness.
Probably you also have massive trust problems to others, especially people you don’t know long ago.
You’ll never get an apology from them….They do that in their opinion, and you don’t know what your aunt promised your neighbor for their help.
LG
July
Thank you, Juli. That was a very bad time. I used to like being at home, felt safe and the feeling is no longer there. I often think that at a time from nothing could come such an attempt to make us practically homeless. It would be better if these two tenants weren’t here anymore.