My sister's boyfriend is misbehaving at Christmas?

Hi,

I was with my sister and her boyfriend on Christmas Day and Boxing Day and have just returned home and would like to hear a general opinion on this.

On Christmas Day, my other sister, my mother, and I visited, and on Boxing Day, it was just my mother and me. When I arrived, I was told that my sister's boyfriend's family had been there on December 24th. It had been announced beforehand that only his mother would be there, and my sister would cook. There was duck with croquettes, red cabbage, and gravy.

Half an hour in advance, they announced that his sister was coming, which wasn't a problem, as more than enough food had been cooked. When the family arrived, their son and grandmother were also there. They brought five large bags full of food, for which there was no room, and it took up the entire kitchen. My sister's and mother's food was hardly touched. They said the croquettes were delicious, even though they were store-bought from Edeka.

The family apparently simply took over the entire apartment, went into the bedroom without asking, drank a ton of alcohol, and the sister passed out drunk. When my mother told them something, she pulled a bored face.

When I arrived there on Christmas Day, my sister's boyfriend wasn't there because he was with his family, who lived a few streets away. He came by for a quick five minutes around 3 p.m. and then left again. He finally arrived at 9 p.m., which I found a bit odd, since our family had also been there the day before.

After about an hour or two, I asked him something, and he just said, "Shut up," and went out onto the balcony to smoke. My mother just asked, "Who's supposed to shut up?" and he just mumbled something. My mother then just said, "How about a little respect?" to which he just said, "Yes, I have," and slammed the balcony door. He was probably embarrassed to be confronted.

We dropped our sister off at the bus at 11 p.m. because it was already dark, raining, and we had to walk the dogs anyway. When we got home, he complained that we'd been out with the dogs too long, and his dog was so wet. I wear contact lenses, so I asked my sister where the contact lens solution was, and his response was, "I could just spit in them." I ignored him, and just before I went to bed, he had to give me a rude comment, because I've been unemployed for two months. I ignored that, too, because my sister had already told me two days before not to argue with him.

On December 26th, we got up around 11 a.m. because we had gone to bed late the day before while we were still playing on the Switch. My mother was wandering around somewhere in her bathrobe, while my sister and I were sitting at the kitchen table. My sister's boyfriend was sitting at the coffee table petting his dog. He got up a short while later and got some food from his mother (our mother's food was left untouched again).

I had blown my nose five minutes before and put the used tissue on the kitchen table. (Yes, that's disgusting and not polite, and I should have thrown it away right away.) He told me in an aggressive tone to clean it up, which I then did. I raised my voice a bit because I'd had enough. He made a few more stupid comments, like: embarrassing, 28 years old and no driver's license. The funny thing is that he has/had a fake driver's license from Bulgaria or something and was caught recently, but then he started making fun of me and said his car belongs to his brother…

I found his behavior truly unacceptable, and my sister also said she was going to break up with him. As far as I know, he also takes speed, and I've read that it can make you extremely aggressive. When he doesn't take it, he's still awful, but not like he's been the last few days.

What do you think? I wrote everything exactly as it happened, leaving nothing out or anything. I had to really restrain myself from freaking out about all the things this guy did.

LG