Boyfriend doesn't wish my daughter a happy birthday?
Hello everyone
My daughter's father died when she was 3. I've been in a new relationship for 2 years now. But he's not involved at all. He shows little interest in my children. For example, he gets angry when I don't fly away with him for a long weekend once a month because I don't want to leave my daughter, who just turned 15, alone all weekend so often. Of course she could stay alone; she's very independent. But I think she has the right to a family too. She only has me and her two older siblings, who have already moved out. Besides, it's just not financially possible for me. And if I fly away every time for couples time, there won't be any money left for activities with my daughter. I should also mention that he earns a good salary and is in the public eye. But what makes me even sadder is the fact that he didn't even wish her a happy birthday yesterday. It shows me how important she is. He didn't have time to come that day, but a silly text message or phone call isn't too much to ask. Especially since he's always congratulating everyone on Facebook. Do you think I'm overreacting?
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Was he that he ignored your daughter from the beginning?
As a mother, this would hurt me… talk to him about how you feel…
After two years, he should know how it’s about your finances that you can’t keep on vacation… Who can?
You can spend time together if you stay at the place.
You have to talk… and you’re serious about the consequences.
Well, you can’t ignore. But really care or don’t worry about them.
He doesn’t show any interest, it says everything. Take him out. Your children are the most valuable in the world. Those who do not respect or love them should go, immediately and in place.
You’re not going over. A partner who had no interest in my children would not be eligible for me.
It’s quite simple: your daughter doesn’t care. He doesn’t care. Ready. Of course, she’s not his child.
Can you accept (no less than 15 years old, the problem is solved by itself in the next 5 years) or not.
He doesn’t have to close your children to heart in intimate love, but at least accept and respect – such a behavior really doesn’t go! Whoever treats my kids like that, I couldn’t have a relationship with him, sorry. And what’s that supposed to fly away with the couple WE? Isn’t it down? Well, if you could tell him to pay if he wanted to – but not even then I would. I’m not a commercial. Apart from the fact that I don’t want to do it, and my child is more and more important to me.
You have to know it yourself, but such a person would not have space at least in my life.
Totally simple.
If he wants to travel, he should pay.
He doesn’t have to get involved.
If you are, you ask yourself why you are with the man. It doesn’t seem very good to fit. If he carries you on his hands, then only because he can determine the direction.
Now tell the story from your daughter’s point of view. Did she welcome or at least accept your friend?
Of course, my children are very open to new partners. Just like I’m with them. He’s not bad or bad to them. It bothers me that he doesn’t waste any thoughts on her and only thinks he wants to do something with me. He’s busy, but we can’t do that. I don’t blame him for not having much time. But often it is that he shows commitment for Hinz and Kunz, but not for the private. Except when we get out of time.
Find another man. It’ll be a long time in the family. Your daughter should go.
Apart from that, did you leave your daughter alone at the weekend? You know you can’t do that, right?
Nonsense, a normally developed 15-year-old can of course be left alone overnight. Always these helicopter parents…
Especially exciting: some start their training at 15/16 and then move due to the distance. My grandpa had taken 15 n apprentice’s room and my mother with 16 ne 1 zi apartment… so then young people should only be trained in the surroundings of their parents.
If something would happen, a court wouldn’t see it like that. The supervisory obligation is up to the age of 18.
Of course not on birthday! ðŸ ̃‰ But otherwise already overnight. That’s why I have the problem in the relationship.
My uroma (from my grandpa) was a cautious woman – but even this one would not have kept her son at home for three years until this training could begin. Schlosser did not exist in this place, so he moved about 40 kilometers further. What would that look like if he lived at home? Every morning at three around the bike and then hopefully be there between 6 and 7? Then work until 6:00 and be at home between 21 and 22:00? It is more sensible to take the apprentice’s room for 50 marks and to attend the trainer’s family.
I always wonder how to do this. Until 18 no single night alone is spent and from the birthday should they be grown up and prepared for life? Imagine that a child is leaving on the 18th birthday, that would be completely lost.
So it is to leave a 15-year-old one night alone is not a violation of the supervisory obligation for a long time. Only some helicopter parents do not trust their 16-year-old children to survive a weekend independently… I don’t know if they’re on the other side of the training and hold hands. I’m sorry, they’re all over again, you can just ignore it.
I also, had in teaching an operating room in the neighboring city . 😉
Just informed me on a lawyer’s side. There is no restriction on young people aged 14 and over. ‘
I think you misunderstood, because courts have already dealt with it. Obligation to supervise notthat you have to constantly supervise your child. A normally developed 15 years alone represents a weekend alone, with appropriate preparation, usually not a violation of the obligation to exclude.
That’s not a friend..
Well. Find out why you’re with him?!
Believe me, I always wonder! We can spend an incredibly good time together, which I don’t want to miss. But it’s just so much for me too. I’m not the type of bracket at all. But taking care of each other is very important to me. I’ve already done some final attempts. Somehow it’s too good to go and too bad to stay.