Frage an Menschen, die ihre Mutter verloren haben?
Heute habe ich mich mit einem etwa 70-jährigen Mann unterhalten. Im Laufe des Gesprächs erzählte er mir, dass er seine Mutter vor 15 Jahren verloren hat und sie bis heute vermisst, obwohl er bereits 70 Jahre alt ist.
Er sagte zu mir: „Junger Mann, das wirst du erst verstehen, wenn du es selbst erlebst. Man kann seine Mutter nicht vergessen, egal wie alt man wird. Sie fehlt mir, und ich würde alles geben, um sie noch einmal sehen zu können.“
Ich wollte euch jetzt fragen, geht es euch genauso, wie der alte Mann und hat er recht?
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Yeah, he’s more than right. My mom was all for me. This place will never be occupied by another person. My mom’s been dead for almost 8 years and I always miss her! She was a fighter of nature and that she gave thanks to God to me. For example, if I no longer know what it would have done, I wonder what it would have done, and then the solution seems clear to me!
How does that feel when the mother isn’t there anymore?
It digs a hole in the heart, which never closes.
I am now 71 and my mother died 16 years ago, similar to the “old” man in question. But I see it differently.
It’s not about forgetting if you don’t trust your mother forever. My mother had pancreatic cancer, and I used to live with my parents to help them. I was there when she died and realized that her face suddenly relaxed.
Since then I see death with other eyes: He comes to end an unbearable life. Now she has eternal rest without pain and worries and I enjoy it to her. It would be selfish to expect her to live with all her complaints, just so we don’t miss them.
The good memory of her remains, even though it is clear that I will never see her again.
Dorothea
A gift from God
Your parents,
a hope,
a rising sun.
A gift from God
our father,
a new beginning
after a terrible time.
Our life
a gift from you
Your warmth, Your trust
Your silent role model.
A gift
each
Your last days.
Your life
returned,
a loan
like any life.
But the memory remains
a gift.
My mother died when I was 60 years old. We had a good relationship but it’s still not that I would really miss her. Perhaps this also depends on the fact that I was pretty close to it during her not ideally running death process and was able to take good farewell, and since I have accompanied a lot of people professionally while dying, death has completely lost its horror for me. For me, it was just a farewell.
No, it’s not like that. It always depends on what kind of relationship you had. There are children who were also mentally and physically injured by their mother. This has nothing real in itself.
I lost my mother well 25 years ago – and yes: I can almost confirm what the man said to you.
But this is not about mourning his mother forever (or generally about a close person) – no, it is just about not forgetting this person.
My mother died when I was 8 years old at a lung property in 2018.
At least the man is right. I haven’t forgotten my mother until today. It would be possible to forget something like that.
I still have my mother in my heart. I wanted to do something at the time, but you could make bad decisions and I didn’t know it was a lung real estate.
After the diagnosis of the cause of death and when my father had to tell me the message, I didn’t cry like others because I knew we’d all die at some point.
I don’t know what I was about, probably there are also people who have been acting like that.
After all, I don’t feel sad about the loss today. But I wish I could learn more biography about my mother because I only knew a small part of my father.
Halloe
I can absolutely understand this, because I would also give a great deal if
I should see my mother 1 more times, and she should close in her arms
She died 4 1 /2 years ago, and I miss her so much. Day by day
And it’s true – all that you live through yourself – you can better
If the grandparents and parents die, it is as if one
a piece of produkt️ was torn out. If you are well understood during your lifetime
has, – in loving exchange . You should spend a lot of time with them
LG Angel 👼
How does that feel when the mother isn’t there anymore?
By being sad again and again,
I always remember our beautiful times we have experienced together. Look at old photos. Love doesn’t die, and the memories stay us
You only have a mother. No matter how to stand for her. It’s emotional. I have one and I’m one….
How does that feel when the mother isn’t there anymore?
I still have them. Only the father lost. And the grandparents. She’s annoying sometimes. Just never wanted to miss her….
My mother died last year, and about a 1/2 year later my father.
The last time was actually the most intense time I spent with them.
I just grew up at home.
It’s good this time was there.
Now it is important to let go again, which is not easy.
Many questions and memories remain. 🕯️
Hello PsychologyFrag👋
Unfortunately, I can’t say anything about this, I didn’t know my mother, my father let us divorce, I was very small, I don’t have any real memories of her directly, so I could say how she was, looked or something.
I was at the funeral when she died in 2010, but I wasn’t there because of her, but because of my grandma and aunt, because I was taught how to be decent and respect others, even if you were able to gain negative or few experiences with someone.
What I would have wished would have been explanations of questions that were raised only after their death, which will never be able to be answered to my satisfaction, because I cannot ask them.
But I wouldn’t like that with the feeling of missing.
I always understood my mother well. She died with 97…
When I was about 88 years old, she fell and was in a clinic for about 2 weeks. She visited with my partner.
I put my hand on her belly and my partner held her hand.
Then she said quite relieved: “This is how she would like to die”… I took it easy to say smiling: “Then use the chance, because now we’re here. Then she said that sooo hurry is not again.
I give her the peace she has expected as a believing woman and I am pleased that she had a fulfilled life.
Missing? No…
Yesterday 48 years since my mother was very early in 54. Year of age died. Actually, I didn’t forget her and think about her quite often.
Something is true, but yet each of us is dealing differently with mourning, because we are all single copies.
70 is just 20 years above the middle, where one has 30 years, if one is from 100.
Everyone has a mother.The one in the heart,the other without contact.But the child remains a lifetime.If you love the parents(or vice versa the children) you also break with 70 and 80 if you lose someone.Then it is even worse because you have lived with them for many decades.
I am 52 and my mum died in Dec 23 and miss her very- I am all-in-all relationship no more contact
Then you can even testify to his sincere condolences without being pied.
My mama was only 73
Yes, thank you
I lost my mother at the beginning of 20. I agree with the Lord.
How does that feel when the mother isn’t there anymore?
Take the most important people of your life and think it away from you.So this is.For one, a world breaks together, the other gets it more, or feel nothing, because you never liked the mom, or.
I think it depends on how she died. A farewell is infinitely valuable. I couldn’t say goodbye. I saw her die and watched her death fight. You don’t forget that for a lifetime.
This sometimes overshadowed all the beautiful memories I have of them.
And how it feels… a part of you will escape you. Someone you phoned with every day never goes back to the phone. You don’t see the smile anymore, you never hear her laugh again. It just hurts. Some days more than others, but this gap will remain forever.
This demolished connection does not pass, as old as we become. You can’t forget the bond.
So my ma’s still alive. But my grandma left this plane. And yes: I miss her too and would like to see her again… (see, hug, tell her how I and her are now…)
(I believe that she “sees” each of my steps and we meet again one day.)
I lost my mother five years ago with mid 20.
It may be an unusual age that can make things harder. But I think the loss of the mother is a gap that will never be completely filled. The pain gets blurred but never disappear
Yes, the man is right!!! And how this feels you only notice when it’s ready… you can’t describe 🤷 ♂️ It’s cramped and final….
He’s right.
I miss my mother every single day.
How does that feel when the mother isn’t there anymore?