Findet ihr das Verhalten meines Partners okay?

From what perspective?

• from the point of view of the current girlfriend (someone): Yes, if I’m sure I don’t want any suitable children with this man. Then, for selfish reasons, I would naturally even find it nice that I myself stand first, have more time with him alone and also be pampered materially by him. If I don’t dispel children, it’ll be more critical. Then it would be tolerable if one wanted a traditional family model, in which the partner would have me as a mother who stays at home and only finances child without taking responsibility. But even there, I’d have a stomachache because he doesn’t even meet his financial obligations. Bzw. it’s not from the text – maintenance…?
• from the view of the grandparents: cumbersome. If we are the only caregivers apart from the ex, you can also save yourself the way over the father and could pick up and take the child right away from home. Then it doesn’t need him either. Nevertheless, gratitude will prevail that despite separation they can continue to see the enkelkind regularly. This is not self-evident. The fatherly parents often lose any contact with their grandchild.
• from the perspective of the ex: also split. For the first time, it is not okay that he steals from his responsibilities and, if necessary, does not comply with his (accommodation) obligations. If the divorce went over the court, there would also have to be binding handling arrangements. And that’s just a “if it suits me, I’ll take the child,” they also have a duty. Parents not only have the right to educate their children, they also have the duty to do so. The man is unreliable. He isn’t there either if the ex wants to make a holiday, has appointments or can’t take care of it otherwise. And for the child it would hurt me that the father has so little interest. The positive side is: the less you know better and talk into this education, the more stress-free it is for you. She doesn’t have to talk big with him and agree and that can make life very easier.
• from the point of view of the child: sooner or later, just go. In young years they often do not notice it because children love their parents unconditionally. But at some point, she’ll realize that Papa doesn’t care, almost never is there, and only cheap stuff is missing. There’s no use for the beautiful words of the ex/mother.