Excluded from family?
Hello, my dears,
I'm starting to feel so lonely that I'm asking for advice here in the forum.
I am 23 years old and decided to get married two years ago.
However, it didn't work out and I separated about 2 months ago and moved back to my parents' house.
My parents have taken me back but they don't speak a word to me anymore, and neither do my siblings.
For my parents it is a “shame” that I separated. You have to know that we are Muslims and come from a different culture.
My parents would never force me to go back to my husband and I know that my parents love me but we've had problems talking to each other for as long as I can remember because in the end the problem isn't solved but simply ends with everyone ignoring each other or in a complete argument.
Since I've been back there has been a discussion with my parents and my husband
My parents supported him 100% and completely put me down.
In my opinion, no one has the right to judge why this marriage failed because in the end I only know what happened within these four walls and if I bring it up I'm the liar anyway.
Well, that's all I can say about it. My parents don't talk to me anymore. My father just greets me, but my mother forbids my other siblings from talking to me because I'm such a bad person.
I am completely excluded
everyone is sitting together, laughing and having fun, but I can't sit there because I'm not wanted.
You would probably suggest that I try to talk to my parents, but that is impossible because my mother is very stubborn and wouldn't even let me get a word in edgeways.
I don't even need to think about moving out because a) I'm not allowed to and b) I don't have the means to do so at the moment.
I feel so incredibly lonely and have had a real nervous breakdown since yesterday because this exclusion is killing me.
I know that everything will get better and that my relationship with my parents will also improve, but I don't have that patience anymore.
On the one hand, things are already bad enough because of the separation, on the other hand, my family is an even bigger burden
what would you suggest to me?
What would you do in this situation?
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The only way is to say goodbye to your family. Apparently, in the traditional ideas, it depends on your role as a woman, that you no longer get out of the situation, except you are undermining her ideas. And that doesn’t make you happy either.
Well, it’s not really my parents are relatively modern about the whole, but my ex turns the truths so much that my parents just see me guilty of separation
If your parents believe your ex more than you, the term “family” is overstretched.
And the other thing is they don’t even have an idea that don’t even do that or do that I just get excluded from everything
To exclude someone is the hardest form of bullying when man is dependent on love.
Heyyy, maybe you have friends or (that would be almost better) family that can support you if necessary.
I wish you a lot of strength <3
Are you working? Do you have your own income?
Try to stand on your own legs, and if you deserve enough, then move into your own apartment. Your family will pull you out the last power and energy.
I’ll tell you from my own experience. My mother also wanted to keep me under her whip. At 25 I pulled out of my parents’ house against her bitter resistance. It didn’t last long, then I was fine. Freedom is something wonderful.
Your parents don’t have to determine whether you’re moving out or not. You’re grown up.
Find a job, then an apartment and then go away.
Alternatively, you stay with your family who already ignores you and despises you.
Your problem is Islam!
If you fight against it, give you the meaning and power!
I’d be looking for good friends you can talk to
Find a job, take off and do your own thing.