Had unprotected sex for the first time, scared?
Hi,
I had sex for the first time almost a year and a half ago, unprotected. He only got the tip in, and I bled. After that, he tried a few more times to go a little deeper, but he couldn't because I was so tense, so we stopped. There was never any contact with sperm. Anyway, it was a one-time thing, and I wasn't fully aware of the risks of unprotected sex. My girlfriend advised me to take the morning-after pill, which I did. However, after doing a bit of research, I suddenly became terrified of HIV. I asked the guy if he'd ever been tested, and he said yes, and that I didn't need to worry. After 6 weeks, I did an HIV self-test (at home) from Rathiopharm because I didn't dare go to the gynecologist and get it done there. The test was negative, so I got tested again after 8 weeks and again after 20 weeks. All were negative but I still can't shake the feeling that I could have it. Because I've also read that they aren't entirely accurate. As soon as I get sick for any reason I think it could be a symptom😭 I know this sounds strange but I'm really panicking and deeply regret ever having had sex. What's also bothering me a lot is that I often have a yellowish-green discharge that sometimes smells funny and constant vaginal itching, but no burning when urinating or bleeding. I had the discharge before my first time though. But back then I didn't have this itching. After the first time I went to gynecologists a lot about it, but they always said everything was fine and just said that I have an disturbed flora or vaginal dryness. I think you can tell yourselves from reading this text that I'm really worried. I really need advice from an outsider. I would really appreciate it if you could tell me if my concerns are justified and if I should perhaps get tested by a gynecologist, or if I'm just worrying too much. (I've already had my gynecologist test me for HPV, Ureaplasma urealyticum, Mycoplasma genitalium, and Chlamydia, if those terms mean anything to you.)
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Talk to your female doctor about your fear…. I think she’s unfounded. But maybe you need a doctor to confirm it. And try to enjoy your sexuality. To touch you. I hope you’ll soon find a nice partner to go on a journey of discovery. It is worth
Thank you, it just burdens me so much that I can’t even fall asleep in the evening. I’d like to delete it from my head, but I can’t. Thank you for your answer
Too many worries – except you have unprotected sex every week with a new man.
Only one condom protects from infections anyway.
Just take care of who you’re taking. The most common, normal men speak it before, should they have a sexually transmitted disease.
However, many do not know, for example at HPV. HPV is largely harmless but can lead women to cervical cancer. HPV is visible through small warts. They can come and go, so many do not even know they have it. Here the HPV vaccination protects well. Especially for women – it is practically an vaccination against a particular cancer
Most people infect with HPV in their lives. It’s part of it. You just have to deal with it right.
Before HIV, cjlamydia etc you have to worry less, that is rather rare. It’s more likely that a car will take you over.
Thank you, you really calmed me down. 🙏🏼
Go to the female doctor and get something out of it. And learn from your mistakes. Never google after a disease.
LG Yoki
so if you still have this, and so far only went to one doctor, then I strongly advise you to visit another practice and to say that you do not completely trust in the competence of the other practice and wish a new diagnosis.
Moreover, when you get HIV, your immune system reacts to it very clearly and you lie completely flat for the next days and feel like you have crass doll flu .. so if you didn’t have it after “travel” for at least a few days, then you have really good cards that you don’t have HIV and don’t have to die of AIDS.
Moreover, you can suspect that you have a psychological and no immune problem, as you already reflect on the length of your text.
You think too much about it, and you’ll worry about it.
Just change the trusted person of choice for such aquise, and you will see that you are really not sick, but are only very concerned.
I have an appointment with a new female doctor in December, for which I had to wait very long, and I think that I will feel a lot better there. And thank you for your answer
I wish you would really find your calm. Surely everything takes its time, just if you’ve been grunting with it for so long. If I can cheer up something, then I would like to tell you from my own experience that psychology can actually do a lot with the body and can manifest itself in the very complex symptome.
If your “test” has been negaiv, please find your doctor a not typical cascade. Detailed blood examination, functional diagnostics, medical referral, etc.)
The point is: If you don’t even believe professionals, so people who know the subject and who have seen and examined your body – why should you calm down the statements of a lay community?
because mistaken is human, and everyone is different.
What do you expect from an anonymous lay forum? How are we supposed to calm you down if that doesn’t even create several negative tests?
HIV is relatively difficult to transmit compared to other viruses. The risk of transmission depends on the number of viruses in the blood and in the genital secretions. The more viruses the higher the risk of infection.
Contagious are blood, sperm and vaginal fluid alone. HIV is most often transmitted in Germany by sexual intercourse and, due to improved prevention, only in individual cases by intravenous drug use or occupational exposure.
Welding, tear fluid, saliva, urine and feces are not infectious. HIV is not transferable in everyday interpersonal handling (same cutlery, kisses, hands shake, same toilet etc.).
Even blood, sperm and vaginal secretion are not contagious on injurious skin.
The risk of HIV infection in sexual contact depends on many factors. Unprotected anal traffic is most risky. They follow vaginal traffic – for the woman higher than for the man – and oral traffic with ejaculation. The statistically highest risk involves the common use of injection needles, since infectious blood is injected directly into the bloodstream.
In general, there is an average infection at less than 1% of the sexual contacts with (untreated) HIV infected.
https://www.hivandmore.de/hiv-information/uetransmission.shtml
More likely are other chic things. But that’s what your female doctor has ruled out.
Happy for you!
How old are you?
22