Parents deny children any involvement?
Hello!
What happens when parents discourage any kind of involvement their children may have (clubs, sports, religious, musical, or political aspirations, helpfulness, doing something for others, making a special effort at school or on a project, volunteering somewhere, possibly public appearances as a participant in the school play) and always counter with snippy, eye-rolling, or even derogatory remarks? Along the lines of "oh, just let it go" or "stop that nonsense" or "because they're waiting for YOU" or "spare us and the others."
Example: A teenager is excited about attending a training fair to learn about career options. When his parents find out, they say, "What's he doing there? It's pointless anyway, and they'll all be waiting for YOU."
What makes parents say such things?
And what impact can this have on the child?
Thanks & greetings!
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Hello,
I don’t know why parents say such a thing, but in any case such a behavior is degrading and mean, and will undermine the self-confidence and motivation of the youth. Parents should support and promote their children, not slow down.
To the adolescents I would recommend to pursue his/her ideas, in any case to go to this fair and to get the confirmation every young person needs elsewhere. Especially in associations (sports, church, pathfinders, etc.) You can also find group leaders/maintainers, etc., who might also support him/her and make courage for the future.
Good luck for you
Probably the parents get nothing on their own and are dissatisfied with their lives. There are such people who are completely negatively adjusted, very badly.
You shouldn’t listen to it at all and just ignore it and take his thing through, and do what his life does.
It’s best to get in one ear and out on the other. Some parents like to speak with themselves and their lives.
The youth should do what he wants and if he wants to look at the fair, then my God, should he do, is good if the child makes himself smart
This says a lot about the parents and their own (life) attitude when it comes to developing and developing themselves socially. to provide added value to the Community.
This is pure misanthropy in my eyes.