Does a relationship change if you seek support from a strong partner because of a trauma and that partner is weak and mentally unstable for a long time?
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Naturally.
When an otherwise strong partner has to "keep things afloat" with two people, it can quickly become too much. Personally, I would never choose a mentally unstable partner because I know I can't handle it.
Everyone has to deal with their own burden.
At least providing support should not be a permanent fixture or a requirement.
It's always individual, but in my case, everything changed back then. Things weren't the same anymore, because I suddenly needed support myself and couldn't rely on my then-partner in this absolutely tense situation. I don't know if it was trauma, but my past caught up with me again, and I hadn't yet processed a lot of things. I encountered absolutely zero understanding and had to sort out important things between myself and my best friend, even though I wasn't feeling well and I would have been the last person to reject my already mentally unstable partner, no matter what. It ended with the worst.
This sounds like classic codependency. Everyone has to work through trauma on their own; your feelings are projected onto them, and vice versa. This means that your mental health issues can negatively influence your partner, and vice versa.
Regardless of your psychological issues, your feelings as a woman depend on his superiority. A woman's hypergamy means looking up to her man. If he loses his superiority in the dynamic, for example, by putting you on a pedestal, declaring you number one, etc., your feelings for him will disappear in an instant! That's what feminists simply don't want to understand.
The sense of shame is completely abolished and neuroplasticity atrophies until self-development is hardly possible.
Shame doesn't feel great, but it's still healthy! It prevents you from acting like a complete asshole.
Why "you" and "your" and why do you assume that the unstable woman looks up to the man, why shouldn't it be the other way around?
Who said he was unstable? You're fully in the rankings 😂
Sweet
Yes, "easy dating"
What you mean.
You didn't explain the situation because you didn't understand the question at all.
Oh wow 😂
I understand. You feel attacked. Do not worry. I'm not trying to get personal, just explain the situation.
I also laugh because I simply love to laugh. I'm a happy person 😂
Not only the best
OK. Then I must have misunderstood. Happens to the best of us 😉
What does that have to do with being unstable? And there's nothing to laugh about if you misinterpret a question and automatically assign the roles to the FS. The question was never asked in the first person.
You're completely wrong. I'm neither he nor she, and in the relationship I'm talking about, it's him seeking support and she, who was once strong and is now collapsing.
I assumed that it was your and your partner's problem, hence "you" and "yours" 👍
Yes, a relationship can develop into the opposite, especially since in your example both are unstable and cannot support each other.
Do you think this could ruin the relationship?
Could happen, yes
A partner is not there to treat this person's trauma…they have to go to a psychiatric hospital or something…If the partner seeks help, nothing changes!
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