Desire for children but fear for their psyche and their own development?
Nobody understands it, but I have had such an extreme desire to have children since I was little. I want nothing more than that.
However, I have a very difficult history and am traumatized and have a personality disorder.
I have developmental trauma and also a schizotypal disorder. Even the youth welfare office says if I had a child now, it would go away immediately.
But what if I still can't do it at 30? I'm already scared of it, and others make me even more scared by saying, "Yeah, we really have to watch your development and you can do it well without a child."
But I want biological children. I never had a real family and I was adopted.
Otherwise I'll just get more depressed and without having babies I see no meaning in this life and no reason why I should work at all.
If someone doesn't want one, that's fine, but I really want one.
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Jup, you should handle your disorders. Whatever is important, children are not always as great as you imagine, children cost money, nerve and require a lot of responsibility from one. A person who does not come clear with himself is completely unsuitable as a parent
A child doesn’t make your life better and it doesn’t get you out of depression either.
On the contrary, if you are psychic so unstable, a baby will give you the rest and it would be irresponsible to leave this child with you.
A child needs a mentally healthy and resilient mother and no one who sees her child as therapy.
Think about the child too!