Dad has been drinking more and more lately?
Hello, my father liked to drink a little alcohol with friends or in a restaurant, which is completely fine.
But lately (2/3 months) he's been drinking almost every night (and he smokes a lot) and I'm really worried about him.
He used to rarely buy alcohol during his weekly shopping (if only for meetings with friends etc.) now he always buys several bottles
He doesn't behave much differently now than when he doesn't drink, but I'm still very worried about him. Money was already very tight because of my parents' tobacco consumption, and I don't want it to get even tighter because of my father's alcohol consumption.
What can I do to make him stop doing this?
I don't want any joke answers
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I understand your concerns. Unfortunately, it will not work with such problems if you as a child want to educate your father to a different alcohol behavior. Get help from an aunt/uncle/ball… someone your father trusts. You shouldn’t be present at the conversation.
if they start drinking alone then actually goes down and the consumption will rise with the time. don’t talk, they don’t see it anyway. you should just go away your own one day, people just have to fly or scratch on the fresco. You can only go your way for you. I had 4 alcoholics and it was talked and they’ve been scraped off for alcohol. except my sister, but I had broken the contact. she can report when she is dry and she did that. I know you hang on family, but you’re wasting your energy. That’s the way
The questioner is 12.
that is still the sad truth
because I didn’t know he was 12. You told me that. he can do something anyway.
I said a 12-year-old can’t give orders to his parents. Your advice on “contact termination” cannot be carried out by a 12-year-old.
Now, in the comments, you come with the youth office. That would have been helpful in the answer.
No, but you said a 12-year-old can’t do anything and that’s not true.
Yes, the Youth Office could help the questioner. (I am not the questioner.)
What do you mean?
Yes, the Youth Office could help. (But not me.)
and so, they can also address their fears.
and how should a 12-year-old break contact with his parents? The Council probably doesn’t work.
Hello Lisa!
Nacoa offers a free anonymous chat every Tuesday at 6:00 for young people who are worried about drinking alcohol from a parent. Come on. https://nacoa.de/projects/consultation offers-round-the-thema-kinder-aus-suchtfamilie
Tuesday I’m sorry I’m not since every Tuesday football training was about this time (started 2 weeks ago:) but thanks for the info
Go on the side. There are other contact options.
Thank you.
Talk to him.
Only ER can change.
He doesn’t usually want to talk about it when he comes home, he is already completely finished from work and also tired
mh… and you mean an adult can say something about a 12-year-old alcohol?
Only the adult can change something. A child that speaks openly something that hurts it can cause miracles. A rethinking must take place, and this is only achieved with confrontation and not in good faith.
If the conversation didn’t help, you can turn on more places or involve other people.
But some people only have to land on the streets and have lost everything before they understand. Some alcoholics don’t get the rudder.
I like to drink a few beers in the evening and on weekends but never alone.
A few bottles of light wheat or vodka is already a difference. And the work is obviously not very easy. There’s nothing to say about making a beer or two glasses of wine in the evening. So in general I don’t see a problem yet. I wonder if he’s happy.
Have you ever told your mother? Maybe she can help you.
Yes I did, but she doesn’t care about it.
difficult what to write… I don’t want to crash into misfortune here with my answer.
There are some options for it, but all are tied to a confrontation with your parents.
I also don’t know any other living conditions on your part, so you need extreme fingertips for the situation, like a therapist who always has only daring answers. Well, maybe talk radically. Evtl. You’re just gonna get tomault… that’s the test.
The problem is that your father/mother has to get from it, which is extremely difficult.