Canceling an appointment because of my period, how can I express myself?
Hello, I have a really stupid problem. I have a mandatory appointment at the employment office tomorrow, which I've been preparing for for a long time, but I can't go now because I got my period. (It's always irregular and uncontrollable in the first few days due to the amount of blood.) I can't get a sick note at such short notice and would have to submit it later. How can I best express myself in the email? I feel really uncomfortable because I've never met the recipient. Thanks in advance.
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Sorry, but the period is absolutely no reason to cancel the appointment. It doesn’t seem good at all and it’s out of scale.
Go, unless you want trouble.
No, it’s not, but that’s a reason.
No. End of history.
No, no, no, no, no.
You don’t have to justify rejection.
I don’t understand why the “days” have to bear as a reason for rejection.
In endometriosis, for example, there are women who bleed quite violently the first few days. After 10 minutes, everything has already gone through. It happened to me at work. Just changed. After 10 minutes, my pants were full. Luckily, no one saw that I was able to wear a long jacket over it at that time and then went home on the grounds I’m not good at.
An endometriosis is a disease that should be treated.
The period is not a disease.
Yes, I also recommended the questioner in my answer.
Then you should go to the doctor.
But you already know that the type of period and pain is influenced by endometriosis? Obviously you don’t know enough about endometriosis or you wouldn’t have written it now. The amount of blood during the period also depends on the endometriosis. The endometriosis herd usually bleed with during the period
So if you’re bleeding so extreme that even super tampons and XXL bandages don’t make it, you’re a gynecologist. Because normal and healthy is not
It’s not an apology, you go and apologize to the bathroom in the meantime and say you have your days.
Yes, that’s an excuse. If she says she has her period and therefore doesn’t want to go there now that’s the way.
Simply write that you need a new appointment. You don’t have to give a reason. Even with the employer, you wouldn’t have to do that if you were sick.
And with the female doctor, you should address your problem because of your period. If this is really so strong, that’s not normal. In my case, endometriosis came out.
But she needs a medical AU and I’m sure you don’t get it because you’ve never heard of tampons and bonds.
difficult…you don’t know what’s really going on with the lady. There are situations where there are not enough tampons and bonds. Then the doctor can quite issue an AU, because then there is also usually a sick cause behind it…and that does not always have to be the very painful endometriosis. I have a hormonal disorder and sometimes had very strong bleeding and had to change every 30min…without great pain. As Studi in Homeoffice no problem, 50min therapy talks…. would have become difficult. Don’t judge so fast..
You don’t know why she can’t go because of her period. No friend of mine broke up at the bus stop after school because she had so much pain. Just because you don’t know how that is you don’t need to do that.
In endometriosis, for example, there are women who bleed quite violently the first few days. After 10 minutes, everything has already gone through. It happened to me at work. Just changed. After 10 minutes, my pants were full. Luckily, no one saw that I was able to wear a long jacket over it at that time and then went home on the grounds I’m not good at.
And I always use thick ties. Everyone who sees them finds them too thick.
Do we know what the FS still has? You’re right that there seems to be defizhitie in self-care here, but do you know the backgrounds?
… and that’s what you’re doing just before that date?
How did she get her life so far?
You have to leave the house without appointment at the job center.
How did she do that?
It is.
There is no reason for an AU and she needs it.
Doesn’t mean she doesn’t have any. And even when there is a strong bleeding, some don’t feel comfortable going anywhere.
She has a strong bleeding. There was no mention of pain.
Endometriosis is really fucking. I can’t believe everyone. Then it’s just saying, “Don’t get dressed like that”
Yeah, right. I wrote that too.
In such a case, you go to the female doctor and don’t utter his future.
By the way, endometriosis is common with severe pain. I didn’t read that.
Just say you’re not okay and you’d like a new appointment.
She has to submit an AU, it’s an official date, not a coffee drink.
I don’t know what Au is, but then just get an attest.
Not at all. So short-term and AU doesn’t like it for days.
Strongest tampon and bandage, perceive appointment.
So I can feel the questioner.
And as a woman who knows the problem, I know how to handle it.
And that such a short-term cancellation only has no consequences with AU. My FE or HÄ would have given me no AU for it.
Yes, there is.
You say you have had a pretty strong bleeding. A bleeding in which everything goes through every 10 to 20 minutes (as with me), you certainly did not. Otherwise you wouldn’t write this all. The questioner writes about an uncontrolled bleeding the first days. That’s how I do it. I’m not saying she has 100% endometriosis. But it wouldn’t surprise me either. Especially since there are other causes. In any case, the questioner should be a female doctor. No matter whether endometriosis or not. Because that wouldn’t be normal if it’s really as bad as she writes. I was just trying to show that I can feel them and endometriosis could be a possible cause.
Yes, of course I mean the finding you raised.
I’m sorry you had endometriosis and I’m well aware of this disease.
I’m just wondering how you feel that every strong bleeding goes back to an endometriosis. He’s not like that.
Evtl. you are badly informed and/or a bit caught because of your problem.
What findings? The endometriosis of endometriosis is scientifically proven. I got the diagnosis at the women’s clinic and had two ops about it. Always had a very strong bleeding. I’ve already explained the rest to you in my answer. The questioner should have this checked. Because if it is really as strong with her as with me then, that is definitely not normal and endometriosis does not occur very rarely in women.
How do you get that finding?
Endometriosis is the keyword because I have it and therefore can also find the questioner. Endometriosis also affects the amount of blood coming out during the period. Obviously, you have no idea about the subject. Then you shouldn’t write anything.
Do you have a great tag that you bring anywhere?
Do you have endometriosis?
Seriously?
I’ve always had a very strong bleeding and a lot of pain.
But I never postponed an appointment because of it, worked, fed my children and the household.
A strong bleeding is certainly not a reason to postpone such an appointment. You get fresh with tampon and tie before you leave the house and in the authority you get fresh again. That’ll last long enough.
For me, you’re just looking for an excuse and that’s what your specialist will see.
You never go out of the house during your rule, not even shopping?
You don’t know how she is. If she doesn’t feel so out or going to such an important appointment for whatever reason this is her thing. I’m glad you’ve always been so great while she doesn’t mean she has to. You don’t know how she goes and how she feels.
Because of the period, women even go to work… what is this?
Take a pain pill tonight, grab yourself neatly and take replacement hygiene articles (there are also toilets) and go to your appointment.
And what doctor would be sick about that? Highestly, if you’re lying down with extremely strong abdominal cramps.
Every normal doctor writes you sick. Doesn’t seem to have that much idea. Besides, every woman is different. One weak and feels nothing. The other bleeds continuously and has severe pain.
I already know that I was MFA myself. And not every doctor writes ill.
you don’t have to give a reason, just say that you’re sorry, but you want a new appointment
Due to your information: Please go to gyn as soon as possible, let yourself be investigated and examine your hormone values (especially prolactin!). If everything should be inconvenient, please go to the psychiatrist and write antidepressants. What you describe sounds to me like PMDS, which can be treated well with AD, or a hormone disorder that you can also adjust.
That doesn’t really help you psychotherapy, I can understand very well. Somatic processes play a very strong role here, as therapy does not suffice, but can at best be a supplement.
Feel free to contact me, I also had this problem