Can this trigger father complexes?
So when I was very small my father was always with me and I was "Daddy's little princess" I mean really, he put me to bed every night and lay next to me and waited until I fell asleep and he always sang me a lullaby and cuddled me and so on and he always went on trips with me but I never had a real bond with my mum, my mum says that I was a daddy's girl and I didn't really like my mum either, but then my parents split up and although I still saw my dad every week, whenever I couldn't see him I would cry myself to sleep and sing this lullaby to myself and I had been given a dress from him and it smelled of him and then I would put it next to me when I went to sleep and whenever I had to go to my mum I would cry so much, my dad continued to go on trips with me and watched films with me and my sister every Friday evening, but eventually it all stopped, that magic was gone, my dad was often angry with me and locked me away or yelled at me and he stopped picking me up from the piano and stopped watching films with me and only did things with my sister and then my mum told me that my dad only wanted us with him to hurt her and that he never wanted us with him and that broke something inside me so badly, I haven't been on good terms with my dad since then. I even wanted to move out, my dad just yells at me and isn't even going on holiday with my sister and me this year. When I think about it I have to cry (I'm doing that right now) and somehow I've had signs of father complexes since I was about 12. I used to dream at night that I was with older boys or men and these dreams always had something calming about them and now I've noticed it too (I'm 15) but I have no idea whether it's father complexes. I also have to say that when I was 13 I was in a really bad state and I cut my main artery and was in a clinic for 2 weeks and after that a therapist diagnosed me with childhood trauma.
Think so.
It’s a trauma, and it’s a lot with one. Especially if you were so young and that wasn’t a situation, but months, years. Traumata can trigger so much in one and often you can’t even see that it’s all connected. You had a very important reference person who was no longer really there from today to tomorrow and has disappeared more and more. It’s just understandable if you’re looking for it in others.
But as a little advice. At your age, I’ve also been involved with older ones and without really much has happened, I’m still busy today (above 21). Every man over 18, who is interested in a 15-year-old, can have nothing good in mind. Unfortunately, you can only see that when you are older and look back on yourself, but also others at the age.
By the way, I find it very strong, as you described it all. Without ever experiencing this, I could feel it very strongly.
I hope you will find the help and support you need to heal from what you had to experience
Why are you talking about “complexes”? That’s a depreciation of your personality.