Can my father check my account?
Heyy,
My father set up an account for me three years ago, where I could save money to go shopping and pay with my card. Back then, we still had a relatively good relationship.
But now he's starting to blame my mother (my parents are separated) for giving me €50 a month because he thinks I shouldn't spend my own money on clothes and cosmetics (I can't understand that).
But I agreed with my mom a long time ago that I wouldn't get any pocket money, but instead we'd go shopping together every other month or make a larger order to make up for it, and I don't have a problem with that because she pays for my ballet lessons alone.
My father now starts creating Excel spreadsheets showing how much I spend per year (without asking me) and then sends them to my mother and writes a stupid saying next to them.
I really don't know what to do, since he doesn't talk to me about it at all and I'm personally ashamed when he spends money on me or buys me Christmas presents soon.
Is he even allowed to do that and is he allowed to interfere with how much pocket money my mom gives me?
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Who’s the account? If on your name, does he have a power? How old are you?
These are the questions you need to know to answer here.
If you are a minor, he may interfere with the account as he has Bock and also have your account locked up, etc.
Otherwise, he may also interfere in general, but must exhale your mother and he among themselves
You get between the fronts. Actually, your parents get involved.
Two households are more expensive than one. In addition, all living costs have risen sharply. He will also have to pay maintenance. Your father’s standard of living has probably fallen because of what very annoys him. He has to make a lot of his merit what he wants to consume himself. Only the sums have neither your mother nor have you fixed them.
Now he’s looking for adjusting screws to release his dilemma. He only fell into your expenses. That might be because he doesn’t get to your mother’s finances or your expenses have risen sharply compared to earlier or compared to him.
With a shared custody right, he can discuss pocket money or consumption with her. Especially if he thinks it’s not good for you for educational reasons.
I personally think he’s going too far or getting into something wrong. In principle, it is not wrong to keep an eye on costs. It’s just not your mother’s financial contribution, it’s the court. There are tables that do not change when you tighten the belt.
With gratitude for unclaimed gifts, I also have my problems. Presumably, I could no longer accept such a gift unharmed or bring a sore saying. But it takes courage.
Wait for a suitable moment and explain to your father that his behavior hurts you and insecures you.