If the host is planning a confirmation dinner at a restaurant, do they bring table decorations and flowers to the restaurant beforehand so that the tables can be decorated with them?
My son is about to be confirmed, and after church, 14 of us are going to an upscale restaurant with a medieval tower room for lunch.
Afterwards there is coffee and cake at home.
I'm in the process of putting together table decorations for home, but I don't want to buy super expensive decorations for one day that will just lie around useless afterwards.
I have this decoration for home
Plus these lanterns that every guest can take home.
Small fresh flowers are placed in the ball vases and decorated with a bow.
In addition, there is his large baptismal candle, which he brought with him for his confirmation, and candles go into the lanterns.
My son's grandmother (ex-mother-in-law) has been harassing me for days now, saying that it is only proper to go to the restaurant beforehand and discuss the table decorations there.
To do this, I would have to order flower arrangements from the florist and drop them off the day before along with the decorations so that the table would be decorated appropriately for the occasion.
I'm not a fan of expensive flower arrangements that cost a lot and fade quickly. I feel like my money's too precious for that.
Confirmation costs enough with the suit, clothes, restaurant, and gift for my child, and if I have something to give away, I'd rather give it to my child than to a florist.
I also think that for 14 people you don't need a ton of flower arrangements and the fact is that the restaurant always has flowers on the table.
The table is also always set appropriately for festive occasions, so I think that's sufficient and would concentrate on the small decorations at home.
But I only planned to use small vases with little flowers there, since it would be a challenge to accommodate 14 people at one table.
With plates, cups, glasses and cake on the table there is no room for bouquets.
Personally, I prefer live flowers and generally dislike cut flowers. These bouquets are a compromise.
My son and the other 5 younger people don't pay any attention to decorations.
My sister and her husband are also rather pragmatic and practical and don't spend money on things like that.
My son's father and his brother's family, who is his godfather, also decorate sparingly and pay attention to the reusability of decorations, which never cost the earth for them.
My ex-mother-in-law alone harasses me and makes me feel like I'm not doing it right.
Knowing her, this will be widely whined about again.
I'm actually resilient in this regard, but I'd like to know how you handle it.
Do you bring expensive flowers and decorations to a restaurant in advance for such a celebration, or do you leave it to the restaurant to decorate?
For a wedding with lots of guests, where you spend the whole day, that's understandable, but I think it's different for a confirmation, where you eat something for two hours and then go home and continue celebrating.
Your opinion?
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For a little more deko at home, for the restaurant then the little snacks you take home again?
And in the restaurant it’s always kind of nicely decorated?
If that’s what it’s like:
It shouldn’t be overloaded. There’s something special about each. But for a two-hour, I don’t have to spend money, and the stuff will come into the garbage. In addition, it is tight and the decoration is often pushed aside enough eightolos.
Anyway, I like your decoration for home and with the restaurant, I’m full of you.
Let Schwimu speak, mainly it is your feast, the feast of your son.
Hi, even the bullet vases are only for home, because I don’t want to take them to church. To the day before, I don’t want to go back and forth for 40 km, just to leave them. Thanks for the nice words.
I wouldn’t drive about 40 pounds.
It’s been a long time, but I still remember my Communion. The Restuarant has offered to place (free) 2 vases on the table, and my place was also decorated with a flower wreath. That’s it. Coffee at home was also nice – but not overly decorated.
Especially when the whole table is full of glasses and food.
That’s enough. Too much of the good is not good – I find.
With too much decoration you can also “destroy” an ambience
Flowers have always standing there, also candles and it is always a tablecloth on the table. The waiters there are very on zack and well trained. So the ambience there is really great and the tower room that we get is the highlight what is special for itself.
Normally not, but if you care how the tables are decorated, talk to the restaurant manager.
It’s always decorated there, whether it’s confirmation or not.
If that’s enough for you to celebrate, it’s like that!
Have fun, minimise the stress and the hectic and make sure that your son remains communion (and celebration) in pleasant memory.
Just talk to the restaurant for a short time, and as a small compromise, bring a few simple space boxes past, e.g.
https://meinkreativeslebenblog.wordpress.com/2019/04/08/confirmation-communion-tischdeko-basteln-fisch/
You can save your inner life and instead of the confirmation text, I would print or write the names of the guests.
Just a few minutes of work and 2, 3 sheets of paper, but looks very nice and shows that there is no business dinner, but a family celebration…
Talk to the restaurant. It is certainly possible to bring something together. Only talking people can be helped
I don’t care. Don’t you understand? Why should I talk if I don’t want to make a decoration?
“If you’re holding up for a restaurant dinner as a host, do you have a table decoration and a flower decoration to decorate the tables? ‘
If you don’t want to bring anything, you should tell them you expect the decoration of them.
Then you have black Peter and you have to tell her.
We live separate and he and I are not really of a opinion either. What his mother says is law. Although he also refuses expensive flowers for 2 hours.
You’re talking about mother-in-law. Maybe your husband should speak a word of power and possibly invite the mom. We had such a mess at our wedding. Both mothers went through. We have put an ultimatum: either you tear yourself together or you are unloaded. It worked.)
Yes, all guests know about pleasure. She is also jealous when the other grandparents on Schwager’s side get too good with the joint granddaughter. Then the whole day is shone and sighed and watched, like 3 days of rain weather. Then it is told in the circle of friends and the hairdresser that she does not feel welcome and everyone is so funny.
Ah. I know that.
Your guests know the mother-in-law and allures too?! Make an ultimatum; She should behave or not come first.
Of course I can. I know their way to sit on celebrations and make the host bad. Her sons also do it. In restaurants she wants to change the place 10x and lets the cook come because her food was not allowed.
Well, if there’s nothing to talk about with the restaurant.
Your mother-in-law is obviously different. Then talk to her. Make sure she does. You can, unambiguously.
“as you sneak with me, you should talk to the mother-in-law.” It’s about “repealing people can be helped.” There’s nothing to talk about with the restaurant, which is still open.
I’ve never brought decoration. Feel also what is provided as sufficient.
if mother-in-law wants more, she should arrange and pay. Ready. It is your celebration, or Your son’s. Not hers. Sit through
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the obese was on copy and paste. That’s all. Sorry.
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You should talk to the mother-in-law.
Again, and for this it does not need an excessive boldness: it is quite clear that this restaurant IMMER decorates the tables. But not on confirmation. Still, fresh flowers are always there and it is festively covered. Did you actually read the question?
Let the mother-in-law and all the others talk and talk to the conciliation child about your vision, because it’s just about this! This day should remain in good memory of the Confirmant and you can best give this announcement to your mother-in-law and the child’s father in advance.
If the mother-in-law is to bring a decoration for the confirmative to dinner, please accept:)
Are you living together? If not, just over the channel you used to make clear that it runs as you want, and out. Then clearly say that the conversation is cancelled if not calm. And then do this, just radio silence until after the confirmation, number maybe temporarily blocking, etc…
If she doesn’t give her a rest, she’ll laugh. Especially if she doesn’t participate, she has to behave or she doesn’t come. And if she sits there, you can ignore her. Don’t go to kindergarten.
Terrible people, I don’t understand these allures. Going around the boy and that the decoration goes past the extended back is also obvious.
Yes, but you block the boy’s grandma and invite her? So that the grandpa and my ex with the godfather feel insulted? Do you think if you block the grandma and ask for the confidence that the contact will ever exist again? That’s all on my son’s back.
I work in an inn, it may not be so elevated but the process is similar. We have always decorated with fresh flowers, candles, tablecloths and napkins.
On special occasions like in the case of a confirmation, the planner is either already a decoration desire to which we are accommodating or decorating the guests themselves, which can be from very complicated and time-consuming to relatively fast as the guests want to have it rather simple and simple, and this is also completely okay. Everyone has other suggestions or ideas for his celebration.
I wouldn’t listen to this woman at all. The service already knows how to cover, for your occasion.
Who knows you can show it.
You mean, you want me to show you how it looked?
You don’t have to. I find decoration or how others do that is always interesting about the profession.
Why can’t you just ignore this and do what you want? Confirmation is not a wedding, your ex-swimming doesn’t seem to have on the screen.
That’s right. And so simply should be decorated.
I’d bring these glasses to the restaurant on the day before, asking them to put on the tables. Everything else would be just too much and is not related to the short stay alone.
Especially if there is no separate room available for 14 people, they are put together somewhere in the local tables. In the order of magnitude for normal guests. There is no place on the table very important to note. Your guests want to feel comfortable and not sit completely cramped at the table and watch nothing to care about, because everything is too tight because of decoration.
An elaborate decoration of ala ex-Schwimu is made when you rent a hall.
We even get the separate tower room. However, as this is round, although the ambience is great, it will be rather narrow in it.
That’s already talking about a complicated decoration. Do what you want and not what others like.
Before the Ex-Schwimu has something to say, I would involve the Confirmant.
if there is a raised house have the decoration for all kinds of occasions in the house..
We all know such plumbing monsters that you can easily ignore them and their plumbing around doesn’t have one of the halfway things in the pear anyway.
Let’s talk and don’t make you mad, such creatures can’t be right.
instead of writing a long text, you could have saved your question.
call and ask.
No one here knows the restaurant and knows how it is handled at family events and what is included in the price.
You obviously didn’t understand the question. I don’t have to call anywhere, and if the question is too long, why don’t you go on.
yes. you can only clarify how this is handled in the restaurant when you call there.
or is it all about you having stress with the ex-boyfriend and wanting to sunk because you were right?
then let you be told that your question is in the wrong category.
You still don’t understand the question. Don’t be good and don’t get bad.
I would not react to this lady at all – unless she contributes financially in a decisive way to the orientation of this celebration and takes over a large part of the costs. When you admit small, you only confirm them and will continue to make them so or drive it to the top because they notice it can and it dances everyone after their pipe.
You don’t even do that anymore, most do it automatically and ask what is desired before. I would at best call and ask what they can do and then put it on order. It is not the feast of the grandma, but the feast of the boy and in the narrower sense also his parents, all the others are objective fence guests and have to accept the Brimborium – if they do not like it, they have had bad luck.
Table decoration is actually to be neglected, but I know that some people are special; we had acquaintances who always complained if we had no wine left open at our celebrations, where you could use it in your heart. They were also so much better-wisser that it was never good enough.