If there is a disagreement, just leave?
The man in question and I are still in the getting-to-know-you phase.
He is 30. I am 24.
We've had eight dates so far. Seven of them were great. We got along really well, and he emphasized how great it was that we got along so well.
At the eighth meeting, everything started out fine; we went hiking from midday until the evening. We had agreed beforehand that he would stay overnight at my place. After the hike, we went to my place, ate, and then watched a TV series. Then we got ready for bed and went to bed. By that time, it was already 2 a.m. Up until then, everything was fine. We talked again in bed and had a disagreement. But it was far from an argument; there were no insults (from either side), no shouting, and no loud words. We just each saw things differently. And suddenly, he just got up. He undressed, put his street clothes back on, picked up his backpack, gathered his things, and packed everything in. He was very calm about it. I was shocked and asked him to please stay. I said we wouldn't talk about it anymore and that I would be quiet, but he said no, he's leaving. He said we'll see each other the day after tomorrow, said goodbye, sleep well, and walked out. I wrote to him a little later to ask if he had settled in okay. He said yes, thank you, and he also wrote that he felt uncomfortable with such things (he mentioned this several times), that he didn't want to be stuck in a loop about a topic, and that's why he left.
I'm just interested in how others see this. I feel a bit bad about it. I've never experienced anything like this before.
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What was DAS for an action.
Joa, what can I say? At best, he is incapable of conflict and, at worst, the manipulation by deprivation. At least you know that before you’re together.
It’s better, because it’s been so beautiful.
You have no reason to feel guilty. But unfortunately there is the possibility that it was precisely the goal of the action that you feel guilty.
…. it was his decision, you can let that stand.
It is not necessary to feel bad because it will be the time when the background becomes clear. You don’t know it for the first time, so it belongs to him and not to you.
mash
And what background could there be for that?
No one can know that, maybe he doesn’t even know.
Why do you feel bad? One must be of different opinion and the other should be able to do so.
How will he react if you live together? Does he really want to condition how you have to react? So bang in with your opinion?
I could not deal with a person who reacts in this way and would draw the consequences.
You don’t need to feel bad about that.
Maybe he hadn’t learned that other opinions could happen in relationships.
There are also topics where the best will is not.
On the other hand, I can’t understand your “in fact quietly”.
This has something like “I want to make it the other right.”
He left, and that’s it. If you don’t want to experience this again, farewell is said. The reasons for his going could only explain to you.
Don’t make yourself small.
Watch this situation from above.
He has a problem with it, not you.
If you felt it as a love move that he
and leave it alone, take it seriously.
If you think he punished you with it, take it
Serious.
Then let him go. Finish this beginning.
Sorry, but are there men who don’t cry for every little thing? He exaggerates a little. But what did you think he felt so bad?
Probably you’ve always been hacking around on the subject until he didn’t stop it, and didn’t see any other option than to go. A friend of mine once did.
Weshskb do you support the questioner? You weren’t there!
Because I interpreted this in the text, and tried to explain why he was acting like that. You were there so little to judge about my testimony
You could suspect, not explain or clarify. No one is helped with suspects.
There are such people. I don’t know what she’s doing – I don’t know. 🤷