Am I intolerant because of consumption?
Hello, my relationship broke down because my ex-partner consumed cannabis every day and often drank alcohol with it.
He goes to work but it still bothered me because I have a daughter (not his)
I mean, I wouldn't have had a problem if it had been on the weekend, but I couldn't handle it every day. We tried closing compresses, but it didn't work.
How do you see this?
At what point does it become harmful to smoke every night, even during the day, and often drink at the same time? Should I have been more tolerant of it? In his eyes, I'm a prude and just cause trouble.
We're separated anyway, but I'm just wondering if I was too intolerant and stressful?
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No one has to be permanently burdened by the partner’s consumer weaknesses in a relationship, unless one has a slope to subordinate, surrender and let everything fall.
Thank you very much for your statement.
I tried to tolerate it, but it didn’t work.
He means by material things he would have given me everything that is not what I wanted.
To give matters of matter does not mean taking all freedoms in return.
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No, you acted right. The fact that he has another job can change very quickly in the way of life. And yes, your daughter is helpless and you have to protect her. You too.
No, you weren’t. It doesn’t matter if it’s harmful or not, the fact that your ex has cried every day and/or drunk was just too much for you and that’s completely okay. If there’s another child in the relationship, anyway.
Sorry – but I don’t want to have a constantly / daily cheering and sobering partner next to me – and no, that has nothing to do with “spoke”.
Yeah, he meant because he went to work, and that’s what…
Almost everyone has any addiction, be it tobacco, food or internet and games.
So throw the first stone, who is free from guilt.
But this is not about debt allocation, it is about self-protection or self-protection. Protect your daughter. Alcohol addiction would be an absolute relationship killer for me, as it envys the mind and manipulates self-control in the long term, so that despite better knowledge of the person concerned, drinking is often misused, which is already part of the disease.
Moderate use of cannabis and tobacco is comparatively harmless.
If my partner was insecure if I could be alcoholic, I would not give her any alcohol without compromise, even if I were certain not to be addicted. That’s what the tolerance is!
Cannabis consumed He drinks daily and alcohol so he drinks three times the week at least… he thinks that’s all right…
You can do that if you don’t give anything to partnership and your own life. Just did everything right, because he says that you had no chance to change anything.
And he wanted me to take this and not stress it. I didn’t keep your mouth shut and there were escalating disputes he often begged to leave it for an evening
Well with money he could not handle often.
He justifies his consumption by going to work and paying his bills. It would also work in other relationships, but there is not always a child in the game…
Deien’s relationship has never existed (can not go into the fractures either) because you haven’t registered that you have let yourself in with someone who had a relationship with addiction.
If he doesn’t consume next to your daughter or while watching her, I don’t see a problem. Otherwise, this is a no-go.
How much alcohol did he consume?!
Drinking and smoking is harmful from day 1 but the mass is always different.
Now you’re separated, so let’s go.
When he was careful, he was wide.
Then, of course, this is the bottom drawer. I’ve responded.
Smoking every day and often alcohol
I don’t think this has to be done with “spoke.” Daily/regular drug use is harmful and leads to a dependence… in front of all with child I find it as a nogo.
So I personally don’t think it’s a drama when jmd. drinks a bit and smokes. Love / relationship would be more important to me.
You made the best possible decision. That’s my honest opinion.
It’s hard but it didn’t stop
Better an end with terror than a terror without an end. Old proverb, but right.
No, that’s right.