Academic habitus in the family?
Hello,
I've been studying medicine for almost three years, and I notice how my character has changed and how I've adapted to medical customs and the behavior of doctors. I'm the first person in my family to study medicine, and whenever I meet family members my age at holidays, I notice how much being surrounded by doctors has influenced me. I also feel like they treat me differently and have more respect for me, and even have certain expectations of me, since I started studying medicine. It's a very strange feeling, somehow…how should I deal with it?
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Good evening.
Well, you shouldn’t let yourself be dazzled and always stay nice on the floor and man.
Be grateful and appreciate that you are among the few people who have been able to go so well to study medicine. It is not that all people are allowed to study medicine with equal rights.
The fact that if you are among certain people, you are adapting and accepting various behaviors is normal. Nevertheless, one should not follow the mass and always show gratitude, stay on the ground and even make it better/different as a model.
I have never understood why people who have or study another education are subject to arrogance, superiority, etc. and think they are better.
It’s just the individual to be a better model and make it different from the mass. It can be expected that people who have and study higher education (of course it has nothing to do with maturity and intelligence) also behave accordingly, so that resentment, habits, basic behaviors should be normal. Unfortunately, this is not the case.
Of course, that one has a certain expectation is normal. MEdizin is not easy to do and everything else than easy. In addition, certain people also expect something. That’s normal, too. I have a high expectation for doctors myself.
My group of friends has grown well for the purpose of choosing a study. I therefore get similar problems with almost all. However, this is also due to the person and where the priorities lie. Here and there you adapt or integrate. Nevertheless, one should still have some honor, dignity and decency to remain true and human.
Human being is human and only because a person had better genes, better chances and opportunities, this does not make him a “better” person for a long time.
The fact that people are different and the way they are handled differently, depending on the choice of studies, shows the problem within society. Oh, a doctor, lawyer, engineer. Quick, lay out the red carpet and bow. I don’t see it that way and more relaxed. Everyone likes other professions. No profession is better or worse. Important are all professions and people should generally be treated neutral and respectful. For example, I don’t care if a person is a doctor or room caregiver. If Man A has decided this for himself, then the “his” problem or his choice and has nothing to do with the cause etc. Unfortunately, some people seem to forget this. Negative attributes were already present before, these are only reinforced by various circumstances and the environment. In addition, it is logical to do more with like-minded people. That’s normal.
I can also differentiate. You’re not quite stupid and you know that the full abitur isn’t that easy and that a lot is required in your studies. But, do you have to crawl to cross when people were genetically lucky?
I’ve already brought one or the other Prof. or Dr. to the bottom of the facts. What interests status and titles if some people have no status and are arrogant at the top, or are there anything?
In this respect, I think you should be grateful. Use it, make the best of it and become a good human doctor. Stay within the family human, keep up standing, customs, respect and a greed as a model.
His x-th question about the elevated status. Who knows what’s behind it?
Maybe you can get something out of this doc: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CMxG1i94nD0
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I can only give you one thing: don’t make the mistake my cousin makes as a law student – she thinks others in the family are far superior and constantly rides to be a first academic, to study law, etc., to go through Erasmus and have lovely views, according to which the world only waited for them. She is scary and thinks she’s up and nobody can give her the water. She has become so “rich”-like with wool coats, Levis-Jeans, various accessories and also speaks so lifted and covered, I somehow don’t recognize them at the moment.
Certainly such contacts radiate the environment and its habits; I have been told from certain circles “Chef-Allüren” or a “state-carrying performance” is attested to me – the years in this position and before a comparable, in municipal politics, by you with all kinds of personalities from the council of the country, over chief physician to the Bundestag’s subordinate, simply also impress unconsciously. I am always the close, the funny, I also remained authentic and absolutely on the ground and did not forget that I came from very simple conditions and in my home was for many only the “alien” … but there are people who overwhelmed my appearance because they think I am “one of the honors” until they notice, I am actually quite normal and cozy and like to ride not only with Sakko and briefcase around
However, there is a risk of actually becoming arrogant or acting like that when one is too young for it, still nciht with this form of authority and possibly. Power you have or not has to deal with and convincingly represent. I see this about this mentioned cousin – and I think that the whole Jura environment is just turning off.
It’s respect for what you’ve achieved.
I believe I know what you mean…medical students are actually very special, and you realize that the study but also the clinical practice that changes people and creates a certain radiation. I can imagine that this can be intimidating. I personally find this radiation of many doctors rather difficult. In contact, doctors from my point of view are often very distant to slightly superior – both private and professional. This is sometimes necessary in everyday clinics, but for a doctor-patient relationship it is not even soo beneficial. Perhaps you can even see the habits of your family members as a model, and control your own behaviour here and there a bit in the direction of “normal citizens”.
I can’t fully understand the expectation… are you faced with their health problems? Creating a roll boundary is not always quite easy. I would always stay with medical questions to give an assessment of whether medical assistance is necessary and which specialist could help but not go further into detail.
I’ve always been quieter, so I’m not a normal citizen?
I totally understand you. Ging me the same but you can be proud of it
Yeah, they always thought I was stupid. That’s why I have such an imposter syndrome…
The distance is inevitable. Social climbers had to live with it at all times when they wanted the ascent.
A pair that shows such distances in perfect shape is, by the way, Ex-Kanzler Schröder. It comes from social assistance. His brother has been a simple channel worker. He became Brioni Chancellor with expensive suits and cigars and the greatest sponsors like Putin.
The gap to your family will not be smaller, but the bigger you may ascend. You can try to play two different roles and bridge it out. It is not possible inside.
So it would pick me up. I would say clearly openly that they should stop. just because you’re studying something, you’re no better
learn to distinguish. Professional and private and then adapt accordingly
I do. But I sometimes, I think, take a little quiet and how to imagine doctors.
then you have a great deal
Quote:…I also have the feeling that they are going differently with me and have more respect for me or a certain expectation towards me since I studied medicine… Respect is good, but maybe you let the Medicus hang out. e.g. snooping around you with foreign words. It quickly creates a Oh and Ah for others
Why?