Aggression problems in the family, is there anything I can do?
My brother has uncontrollable outbursts of anger from one moment to the next. Even my mom notices. Whenever we meet, he goes berserk. Often, he literally shakes with rage or makes himself known in other ways. When you ask him what's wrong, he usually says, "Nothing." So, you can't talk to him. Even though he's my brother, he's not allowed in my apartment, precisely because of his aggression. Not that he'll attack me again; he's capable of anything. Our relationship in the family isn't so good either. I get along well with my mother, though. My brother doesn't have a good opinion of psychiatrists. If you mentioned that he should see a psychiatrist, he'd totally freak out and maybe kill you. You'd certainly be capable of it.
My brother has other problems too. He doesn't eat, he eats, and he eats more than anyone else. I don't know anyone who eats as much. Above all, he eats very unhealthily and loses all his money by the middle of the month. If he continues like this, he'll have real problems in the future. Even though he has his own apartment, his mom always supports him because by the middle of the month at the latest, he'd have nothing to eat. I don't want to continue like this in the future because, due to my mental health, I only have basic social security and can't feed any more people. After all, I also suffer from celiac disease, and he eats gluten-containing foods.
I'm afraid he'll force me to take care of him in the future. He's behaving really strangely. I'd love to move away from my hometown so he doesn't get in my way. But unfortunately, that's not so easy. Recently, he rang my doorbell in the evening, I suspect. He thinks he can control my life. He knows I have a mental illness, and I'm worried about him reading my documents. That's why he's not allowed in my apartment. Unfortunately, there are many things I can't talk to him about.
Guys, I'm really worried about myself and my future. I feel really punished for having this kind of thing in my family. Sorry, but it's really true. I wish it were different. But is there anything I can do?
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People who are constantly looking for mistakes and wondering why they have so many are usually not talking to one and entrusting to one. Why would they? To tell them what they do all wrong? I see in everything you have written no interest in what and why he is so on it, but only complain that he is not controllable. People do not like to be controlled and with a family that constantly tries and tells an ONLY how wrong you want to have nothing to do at some point. But don’t know how to do this and get angry about the others AND themselves. What I read here are structures of a controlling and overlapping family. And the MACHT aggressive.
What you can do is simple. Clear the relationship between family members MIT DIR SELBST. When you talk to your mom, your dad or your brother has nothing to do with it. You have a relationship with her. Point. When you talk to your brother, your mum is not important. Relations always take place between 2 people. No more, no less. And you can also let people bear responsibility. If he doesn’t have money, that’s his problem. It is not forbidden to have money. He’s got to deal with it and you don’t have to lend him anything. And that’s how it goes with every single topic. Delimitation. As far as it is necessary.
And if that’s done, why he’s so angry? His brother has a great relationship with his mum. And he can’t even talk to her normal because instead of listening, she just freaks out or tells him who he is, what he has to do or what’s wrong with him. Would you listen to this forever? I didn’t do it. And if you know halfway why he’s so angry because you’re figuring you into his world then go to him and tell him “I understand you… in and the situation I’d be angry… ” WEIL: people aren’t angry without reason. But certain behaviors of others or in education trigger anger. Because you don’t know how to deal with it and because you don’t learn how to do it AND because you’re sitting the moral sword in the neck, you’re helpless and helpless also makes you angry.
Helps to hide its borders and ECHTES compassion (not pity). You can also learn this in therapy. But in this case, either you and your mum go into therapy if he doesn’t want or you all go into family therapy. It’s not up to him alone – it’s the family construct.
There only helps: no contact with the brother and the Tuer keep closed. Why would you worship your brother? If he doesn’t come out with his money, and Mama’s supporting him, that’s their thing. You better get out of there, and you’re gonna be joking around your own construction sites.
I can understand you well. I also know from home with someone who’s like that.
You’re a grown-up, you get rid of him and you’re done. Family is family only if it behaves like that. If your brother does not behave like a brother and does not want any help, then wish him a beautiful life and good. Such people are often brought back to the ground of the facts when they get to the wrong.
there I would go to the social office .and ask for help.or to which amt is responsible in the community—I would pull away at your place.and change your internet cod because there he can read everything
If he doesn’t say “no”, what does he say?