At what age can you move into a residential group without parental consent?
I'm 17 years old. My parents are separated, and I live with both of them, alternating between them. They both have custody, and we've never had anything to do with child welfare. I've expressed to several therapists my desire to no longer live with my parents (since I don't have any family members I could live with, the only option I can think of is a group home). However, all I've ever said is things like, "Well, I don't think they give the impression that they're abusing you."
My parents aren't particularly bad parents. I'm not physically abused, I lack no material needs, and I don't believe they abuse me psychologically in any way. However, I don't remember anything from my childhood except pure fear. For as long as I can remember, I've had the urge to run away.
Now finally comes my question. I know that if the youth welfare office determines that, for example, the parents are violent, the child will be placed in a group home. However, they could hardly "determine" psychological abuse from my parents, so is it enough that I simply really want to get out of here?
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It is actually regulated that every child who asks for inobservance must be taken care of. Only the child himself can know if it is necessary.
The fact is, however, that such places are scarce, and then, of course, the few free places will be forgiven for the most urgent cases.
The others have to wait.
As you describe it, there will be more and more urgent cases.
You should also be aware that your parents have to pay the place, at least in proportion. Depending on the location, they might even rent a small apartment.
You say that your parents do not mistreat you psychologically, just go away because you “will” don’t go, such residential areas are very rough and expensive.
If you’re 18 and can pay for it yourself.
The problem does not seem to lie to your parents, but to you or your unfounded fear. You don’t need a housing group, you need a therapy.
“So it’s enough for me to really want to leave here?”
No. Places in residential groups are very rare and available for emergencies. There is no emergency situation here which would justify the reception.
The feeling of “pure fear” could have arisen at an age of you when your autobiographical memory was not yet developed so far that you could have noticed the situation. Maybe there was an event at this time, and the parents thought you had forgotten it or hadn’t met you like that. It is also possible for you to displace the event or have an amnesia (e.g. caused by an accident). Even if the event has not arrived in your consciousness, you can have unconscious memories of it. Something like that is quite common. Ask your parents about it. By the way, a psychologist could try to solve this kind of mystery.
Since you are currently 17 years old and thus can make your own decisions within one year, you will not see the urgency of your concern as pronounced. There are worse cases.