No friends, what now?
Hello
I'll come straight to the point, I'm in the 9th grade and I have no friends, really no one, and every time there's a break I go to the toilet and spend the break there because I find it uncomfortable to be alone, as I used to have a lot of friends and I've never really been an outsider. I'm scared of school, every time there's a break I'm scared because I know that I'll be alone again and everyone else will be hanging out with their friends, I feel really lonely
We have social workers at our school but I don't know how they can help me
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If you don't change anything, nothing can change.
Just go to the social workers, you'll see what they have to say, maybe it will help.
I have already changed and tried to adapt to people
You shouldn't adapt, you should stand up for what you think.
I used to feel the same way. I would happily leave the school grounds, sit on a bench, and spend the time there. You can't force friendships, but spending recess in the bathroom isn't a solution.
The only thing you're afraid of is that the others might judge you for spending your breaks alone because it's so "uncool."
Don't let this unsettle you! Find a way to feel comfortable, no matter what.
Why don't you go outside during recess today and look around to see if you see someone else spending their break alone? You're definitely not alone! Then just talk to them.
Okay thank you I will try it today
Try to make friends with one person first. Gradually, you'll feel more comfortable and more open-minded. This way, you'll also get to know your other classmates better. Don't worry, it will be fine.
Thank you but I have tried several times to make friends with someone and always failed because it didn't work out or whatever
Be yourself and be open-minded. Then it's just a matter of time. See which of your classmates share your interests and discuss them with them.
Why not talk to the other misfits at your school and share your loneliness with them? Or maybe those who compulsively hang out with others are much lonelier than you think.
Of course there are always outsiders but at my school the friendship groups or friendships in general are already formed which is why it is difficult to adapt to them
Then leave it alone and develop your personal worth in secret. It's not uncommon for such people to later become very popular with authentic people.
That's true
Yes, it is not easy, but possible.
But being alone and not talking to anyone about your problems and therefore becoming depressed is not a solution either
If you don't want to have anything to do with the others, they can't really help you.
I also don't want to hang out with people who smoke and steal and whatever at 15
That's reasonable.
Yes, it is just unbelievably stupid to hang out with such people at 15. Smoking or whatever is not appropriate, but nowadays most people my age just don't understand that.
Boy, forget about them. Little kids who have no life. It's no fun with them anyway.
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I am aware of this but I would also like to be able to exchange ideas with other people and simply know that someone is there for me
They're idiots, just forget about them. They have no life, they just go to school every day like you. You can't do anything with them, believe me. Forget them.
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Yes, forget about those losers. They'll only destroy your psyche and disappoint you.
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From my school the people are pretty strange all of them but outside of school I don't have anyone