Moving in with best friend (ex)?
Maybe some of you have already read my other post…
Well, more or less.
I want nothing more than that, but not as best friends, but as a couple. Hmm. That's why I'm unsure whether I should do it. He's been talking about moving in together for a few months now, even when we were together. For a while he wanted to live on his own, and now with me? I'm not even allowed to go to his place at the moment. I suspect that he either has someone else living with him or he's just feeling really bad because then he won't let anyone over, and he's always let me over. Not since we've been close, but not for a year. He says he needs it for himself at the moment, but then he wants to live with me?
He says I should leave it alone because of my feelings, but we both respect each other because of our feelings and because he supposedly doesn't have any. He also cuddles a lot on his own initiative and often stays longer than agreed. Hmm… Basically, everything's the same as when we were together, but he doesn't want to have feelings. And his parents are actually against me, too.
I don't know if moving in together would be a good idea. Although I really want it. I've been thinking about it for a few days now. I'd really like to, but I don't know if I'd be able to handle it if he suddenly had a different girlfriend than me.
What would you do?
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I would certainly not go into a completely unclear relationship situation, for which I would not get out so easily for logistical reasons!
Just clear the relationship and only if you’re both sure you want to do it.
But just as you’re saying, it won’t be as fast as possible – and if it’s the way it seems due to your description, then pull your fingers off!
Thank you, I also think at the moment that it will take until it clears, so I also leave him the time he needs. When he comes to it again, at least I want to try my vision for shields. That’s fucked, that men keep you so warm, just because they want to go through the world
Because I’m very uncertain about pulling together. Although I would
Also, thank you:) yes. Is also so
Well, good advice is expensive!
Even New Year’s people who have only experienced us for a short time said longer learning phase 😅hah yes since 2019 hahah, oh man
But if we had already, he insisted that we are currently only best friends 😅that’s the problem, even strangers remember that is more with us
He might like a “open relationship” . Can ask him if he has that in the sense.
Above all, he wanted to have a 3rd apartment, I would also like to know that we both don’t actually make the money 😅😅so we either have to take his or my apartment, or holiday apartment what goes on and on but he can always stay with me and as long as he wants
For him it is supposedly cleared best friends for ever, but sometimes it comes to me differently”
That would be devinitiv not a good idea and it reads as if your relationship was anything but healthy.
You have feelings, but he doesn’t keep all the rest open to you.
Cuddles, share rent, pull together even though he knows you want more…
This is exploiting at an emotional level.
Don’t touch anything and make you unhappy.
Thank you for your words 🤗
He always said he doesn’t keep anything from all the relationships label, kram… Even though we had an open relationship 😅es is crazy, he knows that I would leave him his free space, despite everything
Maybe
You must realize that the guy isn’t on you and pull your limits.
He said he was. Later he wants to marry 😅first he meant me when we were together or whoever it is. Men. Always looking out. He has to understand that there is nothing better for him:D that the others simply don’t hold it with him. ^^
Then you have your answer
He just doesn’t want to give it, he always bows
That’s what I think 😅😅
Calls himself open or warm and he just justifies everything that would commit him to anything with statements like “I’m not on label Kram ”
He always thinks for him there’s only friends or wife 😅😅lusty. In doing so, you have to test beforehand whether you harmonize together unf apparently was never the problem but his parents