What should I do?
I'm still relatively young and have two siblings. Unfortunately, we grew up in a foster home. I'm the only one who's following along. My sister has 2,000 euros in debt, because she always said, "I'll give you the money next month, I promise," but she barely did it. She still begs me for money or food every day, even though I barely have anything myself and don't know how to pay off the debt, since I pay my own rent, electricity, etc. When I tell her, "No, I don't have anything anymore," she says, "You're lying, you're fake, you're a bad sister," and makes me feel extremely guilty. She's also blackmailing me by cutting off contact, even though the three of us only have each other because our family is extremely trashy… I don't know what to do anymore… I'm extremely desperate and broken. Every day I get stressed, spam calls in the middle of school, and chat spam. Do you have any solutions or ideas? I would be really grateful.
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You have stress and feel bad because you do something you don't think is right. Not you're bad, but your sister. For this makes use of your weakness (not to say) shamelessly. You have to protect yourself. Otherwise you will be pulled down by your weakness. So, strengthen yourself by asking yourself what is right and trying to enforce it. Don't forget to praise you when you do this. Because this strengthens you and helps you with the next difficult decision. Eliminate your debt. Take something to get your sister out of debt. Adjustable with their installments, but in the presence of a trustee. Don't let yourself talk badly, but do what you think is right. Then you get stronger and feel better.
Contact your guardians if you are still a minor.
Otherwise, if necessary, at local advice points.
No are no minor anymore
Tell her I love you and would like to give you something. Just what I've got is just a little bit.
And then you list her, your monthly commitments and how much you deserve.
Tell her that you find it totally unfair that she plays out your love for her and makes you a bad conscience. She's supposed to find herself a job, and then she knows how it is.
By the way, you're not doing her a real favor if you give her something. You shouldn't have left that much earlier. For in the end she never really learns to walk on her own feet and lead an autonomous life.
Exactly, she's supposed to be looking for a job or applying for money from the state if she doesn't get clear with her money. Because you're not the Social Office for them, but you have to watch yourself as you come across your rounds.
If she doesn't understand, she loves you less than you. She's just a sniper who wouldn't give you anything in return.
That's sad, but you have to see that she's just thinking about herself and you don't care about her. That's not how it works.