Mentally exhausted, can anyone share my experience?
Hello,
I've struggled with my mental health for as long as I can remember. I was diagnosed with ADHD relatively late in life. It's a hormonal disorder for which, after endless tests, the cause was never found. I have severe sleep disturbances that sometimes get better, sometimes worse. I've been to all kinds of treatments and tried all kinds of therapies, but nothing works. I go to bed extremely tired and my brain starts working against me, accusing me of things and dancing around in its tracks. On top of that, I feel left out everywhere, even when I have lots of friends. I never feel like I belong, like a fifth wheel.
Somehow I'm managing, but I'm not "living"; I'm just surviving. I would love to go to bed and sleep like a normal person and not listen to my own head blaming me for hours. I still have a well-ordered life at the moment, but I'm increasingly feeling like everything will soon fall apart.
Maybe someone else is in a similar situation? Or better yet, maybe someone has managed to get out of it?
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Namaste,
I feel with you and know something similar. I'm 36 years old and finally found a way to make me feel better. Unfortunately, it is so that my path of improvement does not have to be yours either. I'd like to give you some hints that will help me personally.
Have confidence in yourself : Doesn't sound like that. But everything you need to make you feel better is already in you. Therapy and Co. can only give you tools that you need to use yourself. These tools are already in you. Therapists etc. only help you find them and use them properly. For example, your constant thoughts or grumping. Bring the thoughts to paper. They're out of your head and you can sort them. In the next step, you'll find out the thoughts that keep going and which are a burden to you and ask them. In the beginning, I consulted Google and asked questions about it. For example, the search request for this could be "cognitive restructuring".
Thoughts are, unfortunately, mostly negative. This has enabled us to survive especially in the Primitive. However, our brain has not yet understood that these people we were exposed to at the time hardly play any role today. So denials like "not", so "I will not give up" do not register our subconscious and makes "I will give up". Stronger sentences like "I will be successful".
Oh, and if you start to grunt in bed, get up and go to another room. Then you train your brain to the bed or bedroom not for abomination, but really only for sleeping.
Not included : Very clear – We are social animals and want to receive recognition and be part of a group. Here again our evolution is "school". 😅 Being a member of a group has secured our lives back then. To be expelled, we associate with the fear of not being able to survive alone. The only thing that helped me not to feel alone anymore is the fact that I am the only person I am going to spend my whole life with and to feel in best society because I trust in me and I am always able to do things that make me fun and joy. Of course, it's nice with other people, but I have myself and I'm never really alone. Since then, I have realized that I don't really feel at all.
Books on Personality Development : I am very much and very much concerned with the subject of personality development and two book proposals can I give you the hand that has been very much remembered to me – "I think so I am in the way of Andrea Weidlich" and "The way of water: why everything will flow to you when you finally let go of Norman Brenner". Both books that have been paid for me.
We are not our thoughts : Even if your thoughts tell you a lot of creepy and unsightly things, make one aware – you are not your thoughts and only extremely rarely does what your thoughts are telling you. The recommended books illustrate this again. Now in detail, however, would blow the frame. 😄
Consider, however, that ALL is a process and not "I know this now, so now I'm better" solution. With me, it would even be much worse for a time because change came and the brain does not like any change and no deviations from what has worked well so far, even if it is so negative. Change is going away for the first time, but it is worth standing through it and staying on it. You can do it! 💪🏼
Oh, I forgot a very important thing. I am still there and have not fully understood it yet. But focusing on the here and now, the present, is an incredibly powerful tool. Past should be just a teacher to learn for the present. The future is not yet written, so it is only sensitive to work in the present day on the possibility that the future might come up with something we want. But even that is uncertain. That's why you should let yourself be driven in the present and see where the river of life brings us.
Goodbye,
I'm currently in therapy for ptbs and burnout. ADHD was also recently discovered. If you feel so bad, talk to a doctor. Pick up your pediatrician and talk to him, there they'll help you.
The step is not easy, but it helped me. I'm still in the middle of the treatment, but I'm making little progress.
Unfortunately, for the psyche, there is no “just good button”. It can always be flapped.
You may also need meds for your ADHD. I refuse to take them. My half life went without, then the duracell rabbit now doesn't need any more.
As mentioned above, talk to a doctor if you're done so much. The best way to explain your whole path of suffering is to take a picture.
Hey thanks for the answer, I have long since been in therapy – so really from neurologists, cardiologists to psychiatrists. At the moment in a therapy where all possible sleep hygienics are taken through, approaches to cope with tiredness due to sleep disorders, behavioral therapy etc. The tired thing about all this is that I'm totally hanging in there, but at the end of the day everything is the same. Drugs also tried, but they made everything much worse. Massive depression. The only method to get a bit of normality again is really going through a night so I can sleep better for a few days.
A therapy takes his time, was explained to me at the beginning. I also wanted it to be fine as soon as possible and now work to accept that it is not so.
If you're physically checked and there's nothing serious about it, you know that it's "just" the psyche.
I personally can only sleep with background noises because "my thoughts are too loud otherwise".
I can absolutely understand how exhausting it is when the body seems to work against everything you try, but I have found the stronger I try to fight against it, the more urgent it becomes.
It sounds stupid but try to accept that it is currently the same as it is. You may need a combination of deep psychology instead of pure behavioral therapy. If you haven't been treated yet.
You could even try meditation, but don't help everyone. I don't think I'm getting really funny. Or try it with sport. Yes I know the old lair, but that has always helped me well against psychological symptoms such as circular thoughts, fears etc.
I guess there should be a deeper reason for your self-proclaims. That this happens when you want to sleep, I appreciate that you are no longer distracted by everyday life. So exactly what the psyche can do well: get a cold as soon as you want to rest.
You may have developed a certain fear of expectation and is always expecting it to happen again. Unfortunately, this strengthens the symptom and you "conjure" it up.
I'm not a fan of meds at the best, but maybe you could try out other preparations if this has not happened.
If I get very restless, I'll take neurexan. It's planting but it looks amazingly good at me. It relieves the restlessness, but it does not make you tired or disturbed. You won't depend etc.
A visit to the sleeping lab would now come to me if I can't judge if this would help you. Don't have any experience.