I'm not feeling well, nobody understands, what should I do?

Question

Hey people I'm 14 (f), and I strongly suspect I'm suffering from depression and need help. But I don't know how to tell my parents. I once gave my mom signs that I wasn't feeling well, but she doesn't understand and just gets annoyed and says what's going on. I can't talk to anyone else about it because I don't have anyone I trust. What should I do? Can I ignore it? Thanks to all the replies☺️

theophilus77326 · Answer

Talk to them in peace and openness. They were also at puberty age and might have similar thoughts and feelings.

wolpertinger · Answer

What makes you think you could have a degression? In the case of young people in puberty, this diagnosis is very difficult to put.

brunoru574 · Answer

Well, self-diagnosis is not necessarily the way ^^

If you feel bad, you just have to do this and create solutions, say you can go to a therapist or something, but ONLY get to people like your parents and say "all's fucked, I feel bad" etc. does not offer constructive approaches. This makes it look annoying and as if you're actually just looking for something to get out of your chest.

jojojo5433 · Answer

Try to find the meaning of life - THAT heals from depression. Read the Bible😊

anika2222 · Answer

Consider what the reason is and how you can solve problems. Your mom won't know what to do if you just say you're not good.

philipp59 · Answer

Hello Hanna,

Tell your parents you need their help and you want to talk to them sometimes. It is best to miss a reasonable time.

Then just tell them what happens in you, what thoughts and feelings you have. You don't have to mention the word depression. If you think you need medical help, you should tell them. Certainly they will do everything to make you feel better and get the help you need.

Remember: Even if you feel depressed over a longer period of time, it does not necessarily mean that you have already developed a depression! A depression is a multi-layered mental illness which is not detectable by fewer symptoms. A diagnosis should primarily be provided by a doctor!

Sometimes it is quite easy to put on constant stress or various other living conditions that push down one and put it in a depressive mood. It's important that you talk about it!

If you notice that your parents understand you, it will certainly be easier to open you. And once the ice is broken, it is no longer so hard to talk to them about your inner thoughts and feelings!

I don't know how you stand, but if you believe in God, you might also help the following thought: God sees exactly what you have to fight, and you are not indifferent to him! You might think, how can you be sure? The Bible says, "You have seen my misery. You know my great grief" (Psalm 31:7).

But does God only watch if we suffer and do nothing? Certainly not. He assures those who turn to him in faith: "Don't be afraid, for I am with you. Don't be afraid, because I'm your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you. I will truly hold you with my right hand of justice" (Isaiah 41:10, NW 2013 ). Isn't that a gripping thought?

I wish you will soon find a way out of the crisis and you can be happy again! And remember that people are there who can help and want you! So you're not alone! All good and great strength!

LG Philipp