Leaving home as a minor?
Hello, I am 16 years old and a student.
I can't stand it at home anymore. My family is toxic, and for the past three years, I've had nothing but problems with them. I've tried everything to resolve these issues with them, but it's not working because even when I apologize, they never apologize. They always insult me terribly, and not just my mother (my father died), but also my two older sisters and my mother's friends, and her boyfriend always puts me down. They say how stupid I am and that I'm not their sister or daughter, and that they're ashamed of me.
They say I'm cheeky, and when I tell them to tell me what I'm not doing well, they can't give me a concrete example. My sister recently went off on me and shoved me against the table, and her boyfriend had to hold her back because she said I deserved a slap. I asked her why she was at our house when I was supposed to open the front door for her, and she found the question insulting (even though she doesn't even live with us).
She freaked out and attacked me. They all tell me every day that they are ashamed of me and that I am ruining their lives because I am cheeky. They lied to me for years about our family situation. I only got to know my father late in life (I was told he didn't want contact with me, even though my mother didn't want contact with him). On top of that, they didn't tell me that I have an eldest sister who also left home at 17 because my mother forced her to work for her. When she stayed with her boyfriend for a weekend, my mother freaked out and told her family she had something to do with it. Then my sister was never allowed to come back, and she broke off contact with her.
My mother regularly threatens to kick me out. They've lied about everything, and I can't take it anymore. I have no energy left, and my grades are suffering.
They are destroying me emotionally and I have been under house arrest since October 22nd.
I came home late yesterday because I was still studying at school with my friends, and my family went ballistic. They called me the devil incarnate and told me I could be grounded for a year and face even more consequences.
They want to take me out of school as punishment. I need this school because it is a continuing education school and I want to be a teacher.
My mother is already registered in the system because she's had problems with youth welfare offices on a number of occasions. I believe she has psychological problems because she had a difficult childhood and her mother also abandoned her.
I have to leave. Even though I still love my family. Do I have a good reason to leave, right? What's your opinion, and have you experienced something similar?
Tell me your stories so I don't feel so alone. And do you think it's fair that I leave?
Thanks in advance for your answers.
Best regards.
I definitely think it's better if you're moving out of your home and building your own life instead of letting you finish this way.
Maybe you can move in with your imprisoning sister or a friend for some time until you have found your own (and earn your own money, understand).
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Do you have a school social worker? You could talk to her and then call the youth office together with her.
When he was 16 years old, only Sheldon Cooper was younger.
Normally you are already at Abi 18 or 19, even if you skip a class or after the eleventh you can make Abi at least 17 and this is rare.
go to the youth welfare office and imagine your story there. If you want to do abi, you can continue this in your home, and then if you have abi, you can also go to a university later.
Shut up is often worth its weight in gold.