18 und ab heute obdachlos, was sollten meine nächste Schritte sein?

Leider kann ich es nicht verhindern, da mein Vater verstorben ist und meine Mutter mich rausschmeißen will. Das tat sie bereits schon in der Zeit, als ich 14-17 war. Sie und mein Vater missbrauchten mich sowohl körperlich als auch psychisch.

Ich habe weder Freunde noch Bekannte. Wenn ich Glück habe, kriege ich noch neben meinen Ersparnissen (300 €), 250 € an Kindergeld obendrauf und ca. 50 € vom Sozialamt. Das Geld werde ich als Rücklage nutzen und mir genügend Unterwäsche und 1x Wechselkleidung kaufen; vielleicht habt ihr Vorschläge? Sonst hole ich mir noch ein Hemd mit Hose (für Bewerbungsgespräche), und mehr kommt mir gerade nicht in den Kopf.

Mein Elend möchte ich in meiner Stadt natürlich nicht fortsetzen und habe geplant, weiter weg zu fahren in den Gebieten Köln, Düsseldorf etc. und dann 100 Bewerbungen rauszuschicken (egal welche Jobs).

Geld erhalte ich übrigens vom Sozialamt als Ersatz für Bafög. Mein Fachabi muss ich leider aufgrund meiner Obdachlosigkeit abbrechen und mich um einen Job kümmern.

Ich habe nur eine Fiktionsbescheinigung.

Ich brauche dringend weitere Tipps, vielen Dank.

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Britney1103
1 month ago

You should turn to the youth office, knowing how it will continue.

Nachtkindchen
1 month ago

I was thrown out and went to the youth office. They helped me. That would be the first point of contact.

Gretchen911
1 month ago

Mah, what are these parents? Go to the youth office tomorrow and explain your situation. Even if you’re 18, they’re still responsible for you because your training is not complete.

Codeline
1 month ago

Hello,

I am very concerned with your text, since I was only recently in a very similar situation. I would therefore like to show you some possibilities:

  • Get in touch with the youth office. Whether this is still decent depends probably on whether it had to intervene in the past.
  • There are shelters. I can well understand if you don’t want to make use of these, because the cliché “Obdachloser” is not my favorite client, with which I would sleep in a room.
  • If you have to spend nights outside, find a place where no other person is or will come. This can be a forest, or also (sometimes repeat me here, but it’s better than to be overcrowded) on a night’s empty and non-driven platform. Just find a quiet place.
  • If you need to go to the toilet, find a quiet place where you don’t disturb anyone, or even better (please do this!) use the Sanifair station toilets. They are kept fairly clean and cost roughly 1€ per use.
  • Keep away from alcohol and drugs. Once you start with it, you probably won’t get away from the road until your death. Get out!
  • Buy water from Gut&Günstig (or other brands of the markets) and rolls from the small rolls of Edeka and Lidl. (price roughly 25 cents).
  • Get a little, cheap backpack. You’ll need him…
  • Try to stop in any building during the day. It’s cold enough at night. But make sure that other people do not perceive you as disturbing.
  • Come as often as possible with friends or acquaintances. Good, real friends would always at least try in such situations (it is not always possible:-/)
  • Be careful not to spend too much money. However, if you are mentally bad, nothing speaks against a pack of biscuits (but not often!). Before you become depressed, take the pack of cookies (ABER no drugs!!!!)
  • Attempts to submit an application to the employment agency for civil money. Be cooperative and work with them together! You won’t have a chance with 100 applications without an apartment, so you’ll hardly get around the citizen’s money. As soon as you have this and possibly have an accommodation, you can look for a job.
  • For example, Immoscout24 or Classifieds are available as an apartment sports hall. The employment agency will certainly also have lists of apartments that you may be able to access.
  • Don’t lose hope! This is going to happen again, even if it is very difficult and seems to be out of hand. At some point, you will be able to live a good life and even if this time is getting hard, you have had experiences that can also shape you in a positive way. You have more life experience than many others, that can be an advantage!
  • Good luck!

For further questions please contact me! (Also by DM, if desired)

Greetings,

Maximilian

Codeline
1 month ago
Reply to  Codeline

Supplement for all reading this text: I am not (more) homeless today. It is not as easy as many people think.

Carina2024
1 month ago
Reply to  Codeline

I’m glad to hear you’re not homeless anymore. How did you get out of the desperate situation?

Carina2024
1 month ago

Wonderful that the economic youth aid helped you and you found a good landlord.

Codeline
1 month ago

Ultimately, at that time, on economic youth aid and subsequently through an acquaintance, which is now my landlord.

Knoerf
1 month ago

You’re still very young, so I guess you’d better go to Switzerland. At least you earn decently there and the prices are almost identical to DE in Switzerland. Make a proper training, start your new life there and forget your bad past as well as possible. :

Rotfuchs716
1 month ago
Reply to  Knoerf

He probably lacks the necessary start capital. If you’re not a refugee, you can’t just go to a foreign country and get entertained by authorities there!

Loka95
1 month ago

Have you already completed a training or at least have one? Then your mother would be dependent and would have to pay you an apartment and food. Of course you should display them anyway.

If you volunteer at the board, you can also take food and co and don’t stand for waiting lists.

Wiesel
1 month ago
  1. Your mother can throw you out..but, she is obligated to support you while you are in training and pursue this purposefully. (to 25 I mean)
  2. If your father (my condolences, even if you may feel it as satisfaction) had something to inherit, you are part of it.
  3. BAB (Federal Aid).
  4. Turn to the next Caritas or other social institution tomorrow.
cocjumper104
1 month ago

Live in homeless facilities. Get donated food at the table or the like. Take on every jelly job and get up again. There are possibilities. Maybe you’ll find a boss who has a small apartment at some point or something.

Codeline
1 month ago
Reply to  cocjumper104

Unfortunately, it is not as easy as it sounds, but yes, there are possibilities.

qrnsw
1 month ago

I didn’t say any tips honestly indirectly, because I don’t really know about your current situation, but still wanted to tell you that I’m pressing the thumbs that everything goes well for you, I’m about to pray and I’ll pray for you. Remember, it’s all just a test of Allah. There are still very good times waiting for you, and all your worries will dissolve in the air. Please never give up

Rambo1212
1 month ago

Moin, 😊 I’ve read your text!

It’s one thing? Unfortunately, your mother can throw you out of the apartment with 18 but if you are in training or studying! Is your mother responsible for your maintenance? Even if you are currently receiving services, you should inform the office about it, then you will get more money and the money will be returned from your mother. It even runs up to 25+

First a lot of it… if you like to work or study in any field? Then go to Ostwestfalen-Lippe/Kreis Gütersloh or to Bielefeld …

NicoNRW
1 month ago

Dusseldorf and Cologne are no good options living space is very little expensive there and over 150,000 too few social apartments.

Unless it makes you nix to live in your home

Singuli
1 month ago

Ask a worker’s welfare or a caritas or a German Red Cross about whether they can help you in any way. It would make sense that you’re going to finish your subject. If you’ve already started it.